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It’s been a rough couple of weeks, and I’m stepping up to handle the consequences...
But... we’ve happily put it back in lockup and are continuing. I am beginning to see what others have called out as the "power struggle"...
Since we’re figuring things out on our own, and I added a twist that created its own ripple effects, I’m ready to be patient... but I can’t always tell when he is pushing past my "no's"...
For instance... there was an evening of punishment.. I was really excited and made him wait several days. He could see it... I said no a few times before finally giving in.
He asks to eat my pussy after some teasing... I say no because I’d prefer he think about the act, but he insists that is what he’s supposed to do. (well hell... that holds up... how can one argue?)
I have been reading A LOT ABOUT men actually surrendering control. BUT I also KNOW he loves making me happy. One of our contract terms is that he will whine but always please. But one of my main goals in this journey has been to be more dominate.. which he wants too.. so I could use some advice.

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Congratulations
Trust your instincts
This is about you. So don't worry so much about him. Understand that his pleasure contributes to your happiness. As you know he'll whine, cry and act like the spoiled four year old that he truly is inside. Your job is to be the parent. To set the rules, boundaries and limits. Over time it'll get easier, but at first it's going to be hard. So make friends with the ladies here and draw encouragement and reassurance from them.
In time you'll become the powerful woman that both of you want. You're not going to match his fantasy exactly because you'll actually be much better. But that only happens by being your best self. So rest assured that while it won't always be easy, it'll be well worth it if you put in the effort.

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