Introductions discussion

Hello everyone, I’m a forty-year-old male who has been interested in this lifestyle for some time and “surprised” my wife with it about eighteen months ago. Unfortunately, I probably didn’t introduce it very well because I wore it on occasion, but she ordered me to remove every time she noticed as she thought it looked painful. In reality, I really enjoy the sensation, and the only discomfort is from night-time stretching! Because of her reaction, I haven’t pushed forward since then, but want to re-introduce it again, ultimately with her agreement. Any advice on what might work is welcome! Also, I’ve been using a HTv2 which suits me well, although something smaller might be suitable in the future.