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Ask the questions out loud. How to find a keyholder, how to hold the key well, what living locked is actually like, and how people keep a dynamic going across distance. Reading is free.

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Before the lock

Looking for the person who holds the key, and reading them before you trust them.

  1. Finding a keyholder

    Where to look for a keyholder, how to write a listing that gets honest replies, and reading people before you trust them.

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    Offered to hold and got forty replies. How do you pick? 7 days ago · steady_keeper

Inside the dynamic

Once the key has changed hands: rules, routine, distance, and the long run.

  1. Keyholding & dynamics

    Holding the key: setting the first rules, tone, check-ins, and keeping a dynamic fair for both people.

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    How strict should a new keyholder be? 2 days ago · new_holder_nadia

  2. Life while locked

    The day-to-day of living locked. Routine, work, hygiene, sleep, and staying comfortable over the long run.

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    Any hygiene tips for staying locked longer? Yesterday · shower_routine_r

  3. Long-distance & online

    Keyholding at a distance and online. Staying connected, building trust remotely, and what actually holds up.

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    Meeting her in September after ten months of this and I am dreading it Yesterday · september_nerves

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