Female led relationships discussion

My wife @FEMabAC and I have been enjoying chastity for almost a year now, 1) to use my sexual energy to serve our relationship and 2) to provide her a level of control and safety in exploring her dominance, my submission and our recently discovered kinks. Do do my work, we play for one month and then I am away for a month. Despite my efforts to be on an honor system (there is no such thing for me, I like my (her) penis way too much) and her attempts to set rules for when I am away, we both find the distance and our busy lives too tough to navigate to keep it going. As a result, we have a month on and a month off of chastity on an ongoing basis. We have found transitioning into and out of our month of chastity challenging. Often when I first get home the cage goes on, but her dominance and my submission don’t instantly turn on. And towards the end of the month, the last week, we know it is a few more days until I am free again so it loses the point. Usually it is also hard because I know that chastity is over for at least a month, something I have grown to love and appreciate. Does anyone have any advice to overcome these challenges while away or transitions into and out of chastity?