Introductions discussion

I’ve been around here long enough that I figured it was time to share a bit of background on myself and my Ma’am, even though she likely won’t post herself; she prefers reading over being active online…:angel: We have been together for just past 15 years now. We started out completely vanilla, but after about 18 months, we tried some one-sided swinging where she had another man while I participated in MMF threesomes. Since Ma’am didn’t have much sexual experience compared to mine, we discussed it thoroughly and stuck with that arrangement for a little over a year (2-3 times monthly). It was a great period until the other guy moved away due to his job… We decided to attend parties, luckily finding one nearby that blended swinging and BDSM. We went regularly for about 18 months and discovered we adored wearing fetish gear, especially leather. Ma’am found she liked me in skirts—not typical ladies’ skirts but rather leather kilts and samurai styles. Soon after, we started exploring the BDSM aspects of things, realizing Ma’am was a natural Domme while I felt naturally submissive. Throughout all this change, we continued having regular MMFs with the man Ma’am had begun an affair with; he owned a shop opposite ours at that time. In our earlier days, we experimented with chastity using leather strap devices, which were mostly what existed back then… The CB2000 came out and we purchased one. We usually used it for short-term play, wearing it for just a few hours here and there. Later, the man Ma’am was seeing bought a boat. One day (when I happened to be locked in my CB2000), she ran into him. They arranged to grab food later before heading over to see his new vessel… By then, we had moved past short play sessions and were sometimes playing for 3-5 days straight. Behind closed doors, the protocol was high: “Yes Ma’am,” “No Ma’am”—no pleases or thank yous allowed, with plenty of canes and floggers… That meeting with her lover seemed like a turning point. She went off to eat with him, then visited his boat where they made love for hours before returning home to me. There were many firsts: it was the first time she met up with a lover alone. Upon coming back, she verbally humiliated me while I used my mouth to help her achieve yet another orgasm. The humiliation was also new; furthermore, she left the device on for an extra 4 days without any release for cleaning purposes—a first too—since it usually came off even during longer play sessions so we could sleep. For those next 4 days, she kept up bitchy comments and demanded lots of oral service… We have always communicated a lot. Once our play stopped (after those 4 days), that is exactly what we did: talked endlessly about the experience, discovering both really enjoyed it… Funny to think back now, it was my first cuckolding, though neither of us had even heard the word then… Over time, our relationship deepened into a full-on 24/7 dynamic where she is Ma’am and I am her slave. We switch roles if others enter our space or we go out in public; however, I do use a special pet name for her when around vanilla folks to subtly show my position… The MMFs are largely gone now as Ma’am has lovers who cuckold me regularly. I usually stay present and join in. Because I am wearing chastity gear, although I can heighten her pleasure using my mouth and hands, I receive no direct sexual gratification myself—though technically, since her joy is mine too, I thoroughly enjoy it… We have kept experimenting with various devices over the years, spending considerable sums as most do; eventually finding comfort in the CS500. I wear that one 24/7 (or as close to it as possible), removing it only for cleaning etc… Recently we ordered a Neosteel so I will be wearing that soon too… It might not suit everyone, but both of us are very content with our roles and lifestyle… So there you have the short version of how we reached this point today…:tongue: Hope your all still awake…LOL:bigsmile: