Difficulties with wearing a device? discussion

I’m fresh to the world of chastity. My Wife introduced the concept roughly a month back, and for the past three weeks, we’ve been testing this delightful part of D/s in what feels like a gentle, moderate trial period. It’s not a permanent commitment just yet.

I want to tackle some worries I have regarding the physical experience of being caged. These haven’t stopped me from wanting to keep going; they’re more things that might hinder the outcomes we’ve seen so far.

I know every body reacts differently, and mine may be unique in how it responds. Still, these concerns are worth raising even if only I feel them. When arousal hits hard—when my cock is practically trying to break free from the cage—I get a deep, powerful ache that travels up my sides from my balls toward my armpits. I’ve felt similar twinges before but at a much lower intensity. With the cage on, though, it’s quite disabling. All I can do is shut my eyes and breathe until the blood drains away enough to stop the erection attempt. Once circulation drops, a warmth spreads through my cock, reminiscent of applying Icy Hot or Rub A535 to tired muscles. It feels wonderful—a relief. To me, this sensation is new. Does anyone else experience something similar?

Another recent development concerns me slightly. Lately, I’ve been sleeping with the cage on. Now that the initial skin swelling and pinching have mostly settled, my sleep has improved significantly. Occasionally, however, I wake up three or four times during the night feeling a pulsing sensation as if my cock is about to burst out of the device. Deep breathing for a minute or two usually helps it calm down. But the last couple of mornings were different. At exactly 5am on both days, I woke with sharp burning sensations right on the surface skin of my scrotum, directly under the cage ring in the same spot each time.

The burn was severe enough that I had to wake my Wife and tell her (yes, tell her—I forgot our usual dynamic because it hurt so much) to unlock me. This is unusual for me. My Wife acts as my Owner, managing all aspects of our sexual life. Even though we are equals in many areas, I rarely give orders; I always ask. What’s strange is that the pain stops soon after removing the ring. There’s little mark left besides some redness and a tiny spot, which fades within an hour or so. This isn’t discomfort I can simply endure. Has anyone else had this specific type of pain?

I’d appreciate any thoughts, opinions, or suggestions. Thank you.