several beginner inquiries

I did a bit of searching, so if any threads have already addressed these points, could someone send me the link via private message (or just reply here with it)?

1. I’ve heard men mention being locked for six months. Does that mean no orgasm in half a year, or does it simply mean the cage hasn’t been opened? My wife keeps me secured around the clock, except when I’m showering (and cleaning my device) and whenever she wants to have intercourse. If she unlocks me briefly for some teasing, do we consider that as being “unlocked”?

2. Blue balls. Do they ever disappear? We’ve only been seriously at this for a little over a week (we had a three-day lockup about two weeks prior), and I can’t go 48 hours after an orgasm without getting terrible blue balls every afternoon. We started this because I wanted kinky play; when I admitted my masturbation addiction, it became a method to break the habit through 24/7 use (largely her decision). Every time those blue balls hit, I want to tell her that I’d rather masturbate myself, even though it feels like betrayal.

3. Erection frequency: The day after we have intercourse is fairly comfortable for me in the cage. Erections are rare and no blue balls. Starting from the next day, however, I get a massive amount of erections and develop blue balls by noon.

4. Deep thoughts by Jack Handy / Is there a doctor in the house: If I become so horny that I annoy her into having sex with me just to relieve the pressure, is that really better than masturbating? For me, masturbation is very selfish, purely for my own pleasure. If I want sex solely to ease my horniness, it doesn’t seem much different from self-pleasure. If our goal is breaking the masturbation addiction, this approach seems to reward being driven by the need for an orgasm rather than mutual affection and satisfaction. Is there a psychologist or other medical professional who wants to comment on the psychological aspect of truly trying to break this habit? I appreciate thoughts from anyone, but it would be fascinating to hear from a psychologist specializing in behavioral issues.