Chastity in vanilla life discussion

I have dabbled in numerous fetish interests and was active long before I met my wife. We’ve been married for 24 years now. My interest remains, but hers has not.

However, back in 2002, I stumbled upon a post on cb2000 and became hooked. It took several years and various devices to find one that could be worn continuously without needing removal, providing the security I “needed.” Having a PA helped complete that sense of security with a device from Steelworxx. Getting my wife on board would turn out to be the biggest hurdle.

I knew she wouldn’t become the mistress, FLR, or keyholder I had fantasized about, but given our love and relationship, there could be a middle ground. The timing and discussion needed to feel light and open. Over time, things have opened up, though it took patience.

If you have a vanilla wife and want to introduce her to chastity, take your time. Let her talk as much as possible and try to find a middle ground that makes both of you happy or allows for growth. We started with a few days here and there while I was in chastity. Fast forward to 2017, I averaged being locked up for two to three months at a time. In 2018, we discussed the option of staying locked for six to twelve months without removal.

She has become comfortable bringing me to orgasm using a vibrator on my device, so I still experience orgasms occasionally. This shows that what I want is possible.

Don’t jump into the pool with force. Take your time and let her adjust. Communication is key; it’s the best advice I can offer.