Introductions discussion

Hello there. My wife has been teasing and denying me for about three years now, mastering the art of keeping my anticipation high for weeks at a time, with some ruined orgasms thrown in along the way. We experimented with steel cock rings before, which I really enjoyed. Roughly twelve months ago, I started daydreaming about her securing my penis inside a lock. Last week, I finally made the move and purchased a Captus metal cage, though I was still fretting over how to get her used to it. This forum and others offered excellent guidance, so when she stepped out for the day, I gave the device a test run. Having played around with rings previously, I knew my ideal size, so the fit was spot on. There were just two minor hiccups: the cage itself pressed too firmly against my scrotum (requiring some bending), and the rim edges felt a little sharp (smoothed out with a Dremel tool).

That left the main challenge: getting her involved and realizing my dream. I simply swallowed my pride and told her how much I adored her teasing-and-denial routine, but also confessed that I’d been dreaming for years about taking it further by having her lock up my member while holding onto the key in between sessions. She gave me the expected reactions—questioning why on earth I wanted this, wondering if it was weird or painful—but sensing a glimmer of curiosity, I pressed on and mentioned I had bought a cage to try out. I couldn’t quite believe it when she agreed, saying let’s give it a go.

I ended up locked in for the entire night and through the following day, including an afternoon trip shopping. She actually thought I’d taken it off that morning—well, that’s another tale altogether!

It’s been seven days since then. Initially, she noted that it would have helped if I’d included her in selecting and buying the cage—a valid observation looking back. We’ve addressed this by having her decorate the device with some rainbow ribbon (she has a thing for rainbows!), and I feel we’re now aligned on our journey forward, even though I’m clearly ahead of her due to my long-standing fantasies. For instance, I picture being locked up continuously for weeks or months, with periodic removals, teasing, denial, relocking, and plenty of verbal play. Currently, she only locks me in for bedtime fun and takes it off when we sleep. I believe she’s starting to grasp that this is her cage and my cock—partly because I’ve emphasized that we’ll only put it on at her discretion. This obviously frustrates me greatly, but I see no other way forward. We haven’t quite reached the stage where she can fit it without help; usually, I do it for her while she snaps the lock shut and places the key (on a rainbow ribbon!) in her drawer. I just need to remain patient, hoping she catches up on this path we’re sharing, perhaps even surpassing me as her inner Dominant emerges.

So hello everyone, pleased to be part of this community.