Chastity device discussions and reviews discussion

My dominant wife and I are struggling quite a bit with my new PA. We initially got the piercing so we could upgrade to more secure devices that work well with it. But lately, the piercing has been giving us trouble. Intercourse is really painful for me because she’s very tight, and every time we have PIV sex, it feels like I re-injure the piercing. I’m currently wearing a 10ga ring and thinking about going up to an 8ga. Would a larger gauge solve this? I’ve read elsewhere that smaller jewelry can act like a cheese cutter, causing pain. Is that because her vagina is so tight? We’re even considering letting the hole close if the pain doesn’t improve. It’s made me pretty scared of having sex with her now. Not cool at all. Pain definitely isn’t something I enjoy…