Introductions discussion

Hi everyone, I’m a newcomer to this community and have known about chastity for some time thanks to my partner.

We’re both thirty. She has a taste for teasing me and having me serve her—making oral gifts to satisfy her before she finishes, with the big kicker being that I usually don’t get an orgasm myself. We’ve been together three years; she’s incredibly attractive, honestly too good looking for someone like me—and our sexual life was fantastic initially (it still is, though now I cum less). Lately, however, things have shifted: no more blowjobs on demand, sex has become mostly about her teasing and finishing first before cuddling. Instead of pushing me away, this dynamic has driven me wild, and she’s admitted that she prefers it when I hold back.

She claims I’m a better lover because she gets more pleasure as my release frequency drops. She enjoys waking up to find me erect every morning and appreciates my attentiveness and productivity; I handle her chores without being asked, like cleaning out those rabbit hutches of hers, for instance. She already jokes about calling me her slave, but I’m starting to think this might be more than just a joke.

We discussed it further, and since she wants to take things deeper—and I want to please her—she suggested we try some form of chastity device. I’m open to the idea, though our budget is tight, so any tips on affordable options would be great. Also, metal isn’t my favorite, but plastic works for me.

I am quite heavyset as well, which might matter because sitting down makes my belly press against my penis. She doesn’t want me losing weight right now; she’s partly responsible for the pounds I’ve gained by cooking lots of meals and buying takeout. In fact, she likes that being overweight keeps other women at bay and enjoys lying on top of me. She insists I keep every pound. Yes, it’s unhealthy—I hear enough lectures about that—but as long as she’s happy, I don’t mind.

Occasionally, she lets me cum inside her, but not often enough. This has led to sneaking off for a quick wank on my own, which she wants me to stop doing (get the pun?). We have sex several times a week, usually in the mornings when my horniness peaks, yet I rarely reach that final finish point. I’ve accepted this reality—and yes, more puns coming!—but it means I’m masturbating frequently: at work (though not fully), in the car (again partial release), and definitely in the shower.

I do get some online time like right now while she plays video games nearby. However, since we’re in the same room and she disapproves of me doing it on my own, I wouldn’t dare sneak off with a laptop for a secret session without getting caught! Haha!

So, should we move forward? Should we try using a chastity device? Do we need a plan to release us so we don’t go mad wondering when the next break is coming? And who gets to hold the key?

Mostly personal preference here, but I’d love your opinions. Jay