Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

My wife and I have had a few failed attempts at chastity. We generally manage a few days before I make an excuse and she accepts it. There are two sides to the coin - I shouldn’t be making excuses and she shouldn’t be accepting any;) The trouble from my point of view is the rubbing that occurs with the base ring. It leaves me in a lot of pain, and this is after trying a CB6000 + Dickcage + Queen’s Keep. We’re vacationing for a few days and I’m going to see if we can make time for me to get a PA, closely followed by a ringless device. A couple of questions really.. Has anyone been able to contact Steelwerks Extreme? I sent them a direct email several days ago after their contact forms weren’t working, and I haven’t had a reply. Has anyone used their devices? The Prince’s Sceptre appeals to me most. Also what are people’s thoughts on excuses? I’m more into chastity than my wife at the moment, so whilst she’s happy to hold the key, she mostly lets me take the lead. I would like her to explore her role more and take the lead, then hopefully there won’t be any room for excuses:D