Introductions discussion

Hi everyone. I’ve been lurking and learning about chastity play for just over a year, but now that I am new here, it’s time to share my story. My wife is incredibly beautiful, and we are currently separated by 8000 miles because of my overseas deployment.

I’m not sure why there’s such urgency in some circles, but I suspect most folks here agree that chastity play can be deeply arousing even without orgasm. Previously, after a few drinks, I would text her suggesting I wear the CB for her. Her reply was essentially that she wouldn’t mind since she’d be away when I deployed.

A couple of months back, I brought it up again and surprised her with the Keyholder’s Guide book from Amazon. When I followed up to see if she got it, she mentioned it didn’t seem like something for her personally, but she promised not to toss it out.

Recently, I bought a CB-6000s and had it shipped overseas to me. I strapped it on last week; despite only being in it for a few days, the comfort level has been surprisingly high. I even wore it while working out at the gym, including running laps on the treadmill.

My question is directed mostly at the lovely Mistresses and Keyholders here: Now that I’ve worn the belt for several days, I decided to inform my wife directly. She isn’t big on Dom/Sub dynamics but possesses a strong, aggressive personality. Rather than bringing it up during our Skype calls, which can get messy, I played it safe and sent an email instead. In it, I explained that I had purchased the device and was already in day three of wearing it continuously. It felt like a bold move on my part.

I laid out why I wanted to force myself into this: I admitted that my love for Internet porn has made me something of a chronic master baiter who needs to keep her urges in check. That wasn’t easy for me to confess. Furthermore, I pointed out that during our usual sexual encounters, she rarely reaches an “O” because either I finish too quickly or it takes forever due to the mental clutter from all those online images.

Since we both have iPads, texting is a reliable option when Skype drops or she’s away. The next day, I texted her to ask if my email had landed safely. She confirmed receipt and admitted uncertainty about how she felt regarding it. Her specific words were: “I’m not into it; I don’t get it. Plus, the whole Dom/sub thing isn’t really me.” However, she added that I should go ahead and enjoy wearing it over there while we figure things out when I return in a few months. She will take some time to think about it.

So, how should I handle this going forward? Should I keep wearing it here abroad? And what is the best way to present it to her once I am back home?

Thanks so much for your advice.