Introductions discussion

Hi from Montreal here; my wife introduced me to chastity roughly three years ago. Like many men, I struggled with masturbation, and she grew weary of it until finding the ideal solution. She researched online extensively about chastity cages and ordered one. Three years back, she sat me down to explain why she felt this setup would benefit us both. Since I was masturbating frequently, our sexual encounters were less regular, and my focus wasn’t entirely on her as it should be. We discussed all the terms and details of how she wanted to try it out, and we began.

Her primary reason for having me wear the cage initially was that I kept myself exclusively for her. It worked well, leading to regular sex about once a week. Gradually, she became more dominant while I grew increasingly submissive. Holding the key gave her greater power, which she really enjoyed. Although she had always been somewhat bossy, this dynamic strengthened her position further. I developed deep submission towards her and loved how it felt.

Over these past three years, our relationship evolved significantly, making chastity a lifestyle for us. My wife isn’t deeply into BDSM but enjoys specific sexual activities. She loves pinching my nipples, and we’ve both grown fond of CBT; she gets pleasure from squishing my balls firmly. When she wants to tease me or initiate sex, she dresses stylishly in high heel boots, leather, corsets, etc. Additionally, she likes making me handle household chores. For the last two years, I have done all the house cleaning while she handles cooking. It has become natural for her to leave her belongings scattered around since she knows I will tidy up. She probably doesn’t even do it on purpose anymore; it’s just part of our routine.

As for my cage, I wear it most days. In the last year, I estimate wearing it about 80% of the time. Recently, that figure has climbed to roughly 95%, especially since she tasked me with locking up immediately after sex—a habit she often forgot on her own. Over the past six months, we’ve had slightly less intercourse because she openly admitted buying a new vibrator which she adores. I don’t have the largest cock, so my lock-up periods without release have extended to about two or three weeks at a time. I’m getting used to it, though frustration builds towards the end of those stretches. She has acknowledged that seeing me caged is now normal for her; when my cock appears un-caged, she feels strange.

I still masturbate whenever possible, but opportunities are becoming harder to come by.

So yes, I have been locked since October 1st. While she knows about Locktober, it doesn’t hold much weight with her.

My fantasies involve watching her have sex with another man or experiencing cuckolding. Sometimes I enjoy dressing in latex and leather sissy-style clothes, particularly loving heels. My wife isn’t fully aware of this side of me yet, though she does know I have a fetish for feet, high heels, and latex.