Introductions discussion

I had spent years watching chastity porn and reading stories about power exchange and chastity dynamics. All that while, I fantasized about being kept locked, denied access, and teased. This was a long-running theme in my mind until I met the woman who became my wife. At our wedding, she seemed quite reserved and traditional. Over time, though, she relaxed her demeanor and broadened her sexual interests.

About a year back, I purchased an imitation CB6000 cage to test it out. I wore it for hours at home, or if she was away, for a day or two in succession. The fit wasn’t perfect initially. I adjusted the base ring and smoothed some of the other edges to improve comfort, but it still felt somewhat awkward. One day I presented it to her and proposed that I start wearing it regularly. She had reservations; she found the appearance unappealing, worried about hygiene maintenance, and questioned my reasoning among other things. So, I stored it away.

A few months later, I picked up a metal cage model. Success! It turned out to be quite comfortable. Hygiene was much easier too. I wore it during waking hours for several consecutive days, and when either she or I traveled, I kept it on for short stretches. It felt suitable for nearly round-the-clock wear. One evening, I donned the cage again and showed her. She remained doubtful until I explained that removal required a key in her possession and I would only take it off with her permission. Despite her hesitation, she agreed: ‘Ok’. Inside, I was thrilled.

That night, she had me remove the cage for a couple of hours of intimacy. When I suggested reinserting it afterward, she replied, ‘Not now.’ So I left it out. But by the next day, I put it back in again. I would occasionally remind her of the authority she held over me while I was locked.

I began drafting a document describing the Chastity Lifestyle Relationship (CLR) concept that I hoped would satisfy both of us.

A few days ago, as she returned home from work, I hugged her and she felt the cage pressing against her. She raised an eyebrow at it. ‘Yep,’ I confirmed. Then she noticed I hadn’t prepared her fruit yet before returning. ‘You have to stay locked for two days,’ she declared. It came out of nowhere; I didn’t know whether to cheer or cower. Nevertheless, I kept the cage on for those forty-eight hours.

On the second day, she announced she was going to bed and told me to join her so she could unlock me. YAY! I scribbled furiously in my document while waiting. I only delayed entering the bedroom by about 25 minutes when I finally arrived, but she had already fallen asleep. Darn it! Eventually, I slept as well.

The following day was busy and we were both exhausted. However, on the fourth day of my confinement, she instructed me to remove the cage for some glorious sex afterwards. Afterward, I presented her with the five-page Chastity Lifestyle Relationship document I had written. She read through it, occasionally giggling and asking about abbreviations or specific wordings. I answered all her queries and waited patiently until she finished reading.

She set the paper down and said, ‘Ok.’ ‘Ok?’ I asked for confirmation. ‘Seah but I need to think on it a bit,’ she replied. “You mean in case you want to change/delete/add anything?” She nodded. “Yes.” Then she added, “What if this doesn’t work out?” I explained that we are both intelligent adults; we would either make adjustments or simply drop the arrangement.

She seemed content with that logic. Then she instructed me to put the cage back on immediately and stated I wouldn’t be let out for a week (eek!).

So here I am, two days later, still locked up. I did manage to get out briefly today—about 10 minutes—to shave. Getting hair caught in the mesh isn’t pleasant.

I will ask her later if she has considered any modifications to our CLR agreement. The CLR outlines what is expected of me and what is expected of her, along with the benefits for her side and certain boundaries (surprisingly few) that I believe should remain off-limits. Essentially, it establishes a Female-Led Relationship/Male-Submission dynamic between us, granting her significant control over our relationship as well as my physical, sexual, and daily life management.

To me, this felt like a natural progression in our marriage. She has managed the major finances for quite some time already. I admit I lack whatever specific skills are needed to handle stocks, investments, rental properties, etc., effectively.