Female led relationships discussion

member_5148e12e85 · 2026-09-14T14:04:22.000Z · 3 replies

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2026-09-14T14:04:22.000Z #1

@Queen V asked for it, so I’m starting a new thread to document our path from the start of pregnancy up to this point.

When we decided to try for a baby, we were already deep into chastity. I stopped taking birth control pills and unlocked him a few times before that first conception happened because I didn’t think it would work out. Our strategy was simply not to prevent pregnancy rather than actively trying; if no result occurred, we planned to get serious about conceiving in the summer. But I got pregnant during my second unlock! Ladies, this proves the myth of ‘old sperm’ is wrong since he only gets unlocked roughly once a month!

I had him right there on our living room floor, hands cuffed and wearing his plug if memory serves.

About four weeks after that last unlock, extreme fatigue hit me. I mean really tired—I was falling asleep at my desk despite sleeping ten hours the night before and hitting the pillow by 8 or 9 PM. One lunch break, I popped into the pharmacy for a test. With only five minutes left on my break, I took it without much thought. The result came back positive!

I started shaking and immediately messaged our remote work team to let them know and ask how best to tell @Thatguyontheinternet since we were ahead of schedule. He replied with some dirty talk texts. Because I was so distracted, I couldn’t really keep up with the banter (usually we exchange sexy/suggestive messages all day), so I asked if I could call him instead.

I called and broke the news. He was shocked but said something like “uhhhhh…okay…we got this!” That evening after work, he came home carrying flowers and balloons!

We continued our FLR/chastity routine for those first few months, though the exhaustion of early pregnancy started to wear me down. I became less involved in the lifestyle; honestly, all my hormones craved simple vanilla sex (hormones do strange things to your mind!). By the third trimester, I was totally drained, aching, and just not interested, so I decided to unlock him. Chastity was originally my idea anyway—it wasn’t fair to keep him locked up when I couldn’t fully commit.

In our FLR/Chastity dynamic, if I’m not into it, things fizzle (if you’re new here or don’t know us well, check out the earlier threads for our backstory).

Throughout the pregnancy, we both assumed I’d bounce back quickly once the baby arrived. We were SO wrong. On top of severe sleep deprivation, I suffered major birth injuries and heavy blood loss that took a long time to heal. Even after my OB cleared us for sex, it remained painful for quite a while. Instead of the usual six weeks, we waited twelve.

By week nine, I was going crazy! I needed intimacy…I had tested the waters a few times on my own and it felt fine, so I called my OB and begged for clearance. He reluctantly agreed that night, and I decided to try intercourse then. It hurt at first, but after a few minutes, I adjusted.

Well, that encounter left him feeling horny the next day. He admitted he’d taken care of himself later that same night despite already being drained from me. That was enough to reignite my chastity spark! The following day, I locked him up again.

It turned out to be a false start because our baby still wasn’t sleeping through the night and we were exhausted. So I unlocked him once more under a “don’t ask, don’t tell” agreement, settling into vanilla sex for a while.

A few months passed, and suddenly our little one started being wonderful—easier to manage and finally sleeping all night!

That’s when I decided to lock him up permanently again. This happened around March 1st. Since then, he has had two unlocks: one in June with full release on the 18th, and another just last week without cumming but with lots of teasing using our large Implicit plug and my magic wand.

For the past couple of weeks, I’ve been plugging him nearly every night (with a day or two off here and there).

Our FLR/Chastity relationship feels different this time. It seems more intense and serious. Previously, when it was just us two, we could play whenever and wherever we wanted. Now with the child, life is more structured, and we maximize our available playtime.

I’ve become stricter regarding his punishments (caning/flogging/CBT/electrodes are placed strategically). Before, I used to enjoy teasing him for hours until he strained so hard in his cage that the teeth inside marked his member. I still do this now, just not as intensely.

Something about giving birth, enduring heavy blood loss, and then needing emergency surgery due to severe injuries—basically hovering on death’s edge before being pulled back—has given me a new perspective on what women can truly handle. While inflicting pain on him, I often think his discomfort is nothing compared to mine, which makes it much easier.

Of course, when the session ends, I hold him in my arms while he trembles from the intensity. I stroke his hair, kiss him, and gently rub his back and bottom. He feels incredibly loved. The punishments and lack of release are shaping him into an even better man than before. That is why both I (and now he!) hesitate to allow a full cumming session. We know it will happen eventually, but I’m not ready for our hard-won momentum to stall because of one ejaculation.

His attitude shifts IMMEDIATELY after he cums; he quickly reverts to his squirrelly, masculine, pseudo-dominant self.

So that summarizes what we’ve been doing over the last year regarding our FLR/Chastity lifestyle. We are eager to continue learning and growing as a couple while navigating new parenthood. I must admit, we both miss life before having our daughter—the spontaneity and frequency of it all—but we wouldn’t change anything even if we could because we’re now enjoying this phase with the baby.

She is eight months old and absolutely delightful! Seeing my locked boy interact with her makes me fall deeper in love with him every day.

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2026-09-14T16:12:08.664Z #2

@Thatgirl and @Thatguyontheinternet ..... Thanks for the update. My wife and I have a somewhat similar experience where she has lost most of her chastity mojo. Hopefully it will spark back up and return to full strength, just as yours seems to be doing:-)

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2026-09-14T22:06:15.838Z #3

Thanks for the update and welcome back. Glad to have you both participating again. The setbacks you encountered will likely happen again. Babies are great disrupters, only getting better at it as they age. Be patient with each other and roll with the changes as they come. I really appreciate your description of punishment; I can confirm that is when I feel most loved—afterward, not during! Holy sh*t, definitely NOT during::oops:

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2026-09-15T05:19:55.434Z #4

Nicely written. We went through this twice over the last six years. During that time, chastity was a huge part of our lives. I second the myth about bad sperm. Both times she got pregnant on the very first unlock when we had sex. Although what followed afterward was slightly different for us. Late in pregnancy and after birth, her interest in sex dropped to almost zero, so I stayed locked most of the time. Glad to hear you're doing well and enjoying your new family. Hope to hear more about your latest activities.

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