Introductions discussion

Hello everyone,

I just turned 32. I’ve never been in an s/m relationship, though it feels like every day since I was 15 that I’m masturbating to the concept.

My girlfriend of two years is wonderful; while I can pleasure her with my fingers and tongue, we haven’t had penetrative sex because I have zero sex drive, whereas she really wants intercourse.

For the past four months, I’ve been trying to stop masturbating to see if that was causing a total lack of arousal. Usually, I break after 1-3 days; the longest stretch I managed was eight days, during which point I actually felt aroused when kissing her recently. However, the next day I couldn’t resist and got some relief.

Two days ago, while browsing online, I discovered that over-masturbation might be a culprit, which aligns with my experience of that eight-day stretch. After doing some research, I found that some people use chastity to manage exactly this impulse.

I’ve been researching devices suitable for me (since I’m not circumcised). I was considering the CB2000 or the Twister 2; I lean toward the latter as my boy is relatively small. Next week, I plan to discuss it with her, although she’s quite vanilla by nature.

I really hope she agrees. I don’t mind having sex less often, but since she wants it and I just want to make her happy, that works for me.

Thanks for listening.