Introductions discussion

:anim_39:Hi everyone. I’m married in a “vanilla sex” setup. Over our five years together, I’ve managed to get my Wife to use a dildo on me just a few times, though she showed little enthusiasm about it. I really enjoy anal penetration! Since childhood, I have secretly crossdressed and masturbated using dildos and other toys. I’m not sure how to help her embrace this side of me, let alone my fantasy where I become her locked-up sub sissy slut who serves her strap-on needs. She doesn’t seem keen on the strapon idea either (I bought one, but she refuses to wear it). It feels like she is mostly worried that I might turn gay. My sex drive is high and my imagination runs wild with things I don’t know how to handle. I don’t want to overwhelm her, yet this topic occupies much of my thoughts. So the question arises… **when does a fantasy remain just a dream, and when should it become real? ** What steps should I take first to gradually warm her up to these concepts? Does anyone have tips on how to get my wife interested in this lifestyle? (I joined this site to enjoy your photos and stories while figuring out whether and how to eventually get my Wife on board.)