Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

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so every letter/ story/ article i've read involves a possible removal of the cage to the glory of a raging erection. i have only played 4 times since August but if im locked 3 or more days I experience a massive sub drop as soon as it is removed. My mind kind of shuts off and i cant get an erection even with the help of viagra. Nothing is that sexy, real or online. That said my periods locked have been extremely intense experiences for me. SInce i discovered chastity it has been my far and above number one fantasy. No other sexual fantasy compared. When ive been locked after a day or so when the hormones and semen have built up i go crazy with lust. If i sit in a certain position (car seat, office chair or recliner) it allows just a small pull inside the tube on the head of my penis that is like a shock wave of pleasure. If i move my hips slowly back and forth this sensation can be continued to where i feel like i have reached 75% of an orgasm without actually reaching a climax. this can happen 10 to fifteen times a day and each time it happens it gets a little more intense. most of the time precum will leak out with these mini orgasms. a couple times a day large amounts of precum will come spurting out again without orgasm. the feeling of your body having a large squirt of precum alone is mind blowing. i usually wake up in the middle of the night desperate to cum and end up humping a pillow til i kind of fall asleep. i dont live with my girlfriend so when im locked im usually at my house alone. im sure many others have similar similar or more intense experiences but i included the detail just to highlight and stress the intensity (to me) of my experiences. my mind races at an unbelievably high level. the mini orgasms build the frustration levels to 10 on a scale of 10. the evil that cage causes me is delicious. however when my girlfriend unlocks me it is like falling off a cliff. as stated nothing is sexy and i cant get an erection. i get nocturnal erections so i believe this is entirely mental. my girlfriend and i have good sex otherwise but for at least several days this funk/fog holds on. she is kind of reluctant to be my keyholder to begin with and im working on that. however the last thing i need is her to associate chastity with a failure to launch. if anyone has any thoughts feel free to weigh in. thank you.

member_0b48f9cbd9 · Answer

I think it’s pretty common for things to take a day or two to return to “normal” after a prolonged lockup. I know that’s true for me, and I’ve seen others report it as well.
I think the solution in this case is, just as when you’re locked up, to look for ways to please your partner without your cock. Focus on her pleasure and don’t worry about what’s going on down there.
This may be tricky if she’s unlocking you because she really wants PIV, but as with everything related to TTWWD, communication is key. Preferably communicate about this in advance, to take the pressure off somewhat when it’s happening.
Your situation may require that your unlocked times last a little longer to be available to her, but I’ll bet if you remove the pressure to perform as soon as you’re released, that multi day fog you’re referring to will go away as well.
Good luck. Hope that helps.

member_3c534b639c · Answer

The "failure to perform" happened a couple times to me too, after being locked for several days (or more). Couple things I realized: (a) they all happened on Sunday night after a usually fairly intense teasing weekend and (b) I had a cage that would be removed in its entirety.
For (a) I recommend trying not to go crazy all weekend, then try to get action going at full speed again when you may be reaching a natural "tired" or "low energy" period. But YMMV.
For (b) I started leaving the ring on, which would act as a cock ring, which would keep my erection raging. Well, I got a new cage (Evotion 8) that was sized perfectly - making it very hard (pun intended) to remove with the slightest erection. But it had a definite bonus of keeping me ready to go!
And it let my KH/wife easily tell me to cage back up almost immediately post-orgasm. /sigh

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