Introductions discussion

Hi everyone. I officially joined today after hovering around for a good while, sometimes regularly and sometimes not. I’m a husband of seven years, in my mid-thirties, running my own business with no kids yet. My curiosity about chastity has been simmering for roughly half a decade, and although I’ve asked my wife to give it a shot a few times over the last couple of years, she hasn’t shown much enthusiasm. Lately though, that interest in me has grown so strong that I can barely let it go. She’s wonderful—sweet, very traditional/vanilla, more of a follower—and our bond is loving. But her drive for sex and closeness is practically absent, leading to what feels like an almost “sexless” union, which affects us both surprisingly much.

I feel chastity could be enjoyable because when I’ve locked myself up for just a day before, it shifts my headspace; I’m happy with simple affection like a back massage rather than things escalating. Plus, I see it as a chance to make her more involved in our sexual dynamic without us necessarily having penetrative sex—her active participation would be a massive morale boost for me. She hesitates because she doesn’t quite grasp the reasoning, and she enjoys gently touching my privates every night; with the cage on, that’s harder for her.

I experimented with a CB3000 initially, but found it lacking. I then ordered an MM Jailbird, which is far superior, though not flawless due to being just slightly off in size. With some adjustment time, I’m confident I could manage a week without problems. Usually, when self-locking during the day, I remove it before my wife returns home from work. Since learning how, I’ve been jerking off daily, trying to hold back only for a day or two at most. It seems those everyday releases are draining my energy, so I’m attempting abstinence again. My wife knows about it but isn’t sure of the frequency; if she found out it was happening every single day, she might feel slighted.

So here I am, committed to doing “Loctober” (October Lock). Not using a cage this time, just abstaining from orgasms for the month through sheer willpower. So far, I’ve gone the entire period without releasing. If it gets tough, I might call on my wife’s assistance as a slow introduction to the lifestyle. By help, I mean her checking in with me about whether I touched myself daily and firmly telling me no when she asks each morning.

That’ll do for now. Happy to be part of this community!