Introductions discussion

Hi there! I’m new around here, though I’ve been wearing chastity cages for quite a while now—plastic, silicone, and lately stainless steel. My partner discovered the first one about four or five years ago and absolutely loved it… that’s a tale for later.

I really enjoy the weight of the heavy stainless device because it constantly reminds me who holds the power. Her grins and giggles make me happy too. I was pleasantly surprised to see her get quite upset at the thought of me staying caged permanently without any prior agreement, after we’d been going on and off with chastity for a few weeks.

Before our first week together started, she wasn’t entirely sure about it. I wore the cage in front of her while keeping the keys myself. Eventually, she grew more comfortable leaving the key holders guide by my side when I left home; I even bought one for her specifically.

About two months ago, she began asking if I had it on whenever I stepped out. She started sending me tasty photos showing where she’d hidden the key in precarious spots, though it usually ended up back on the jewelry box. Then, the pictures and teasing paused for a couple of weeks. Deciding to push things further, I tried to involve her more.

I began wearing it full time. I explained that while I loved wearing it for her sake, it made me incredibly horny constantly. Could she just tease me occasionally? Maybe tomorrow.

A few days later, we discussed ruined orgasm as a way to keep us both engaged. I bought her a strap-on and had her use it once or twice months ago; she really enjoyed that experience. Now, however, she acts like she doesn’t want to use it again—and hasn’t lately. Always saying tomorrow.

After being caged for a couple of weeks, I caught the flu. I took the key from the jewelry box and removed the cage. Between having no stimulation and feeling unwell without anything special coming up, I felt somewhat neglected by her indifference.

She walked into the bathroom and noticed the cage was off. I told her I was sick and just didn’t feel like playing at that moment. She became furious and declared she wasn’t going to play anymore either.

It’s been a few weeks since then, but she has caught me wearing the ring back in chastity gear. I’ve been tweaking it for a better fit and testing out these modifications. Her interest is clearly returning.

I feel ready to move forward, as does she, but I worry she might just ignore me again, leaving me with nothing special to anticipate. Her approach so far seems binary: all or nothing. Is it selfish of me to expect some attention and trust that there will be something worthwhile ahead? How can I shape this into a sustainable dynamic for me? And how can I make the game more exciting for her so she truly enjoys playing?

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