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First off, I want to clarify that this isn’t one of those fantasy-style posts; it’s an honest account of how my husband and I handle chastity in real life. When he first suggested it, I was a little doubtful because it felt outside my usual experience, but after three months, it has become a huge turn-on for me knowing that my husband can’t touch himself without my permission to unlock him.
Since I sometimes worry about attaching the devices incorrectly (yes, we use several for different purposes), here is what I do: I tell my husband which specific device he should wear. We have a standard chastity cage, a birdlocked pico used for punishment, and a spiked cock ring that serves as his “porn sensitivity trainer.” We also own a heavy ball stretcher and a remote shocker that I make him wear in public under his clothes, alternating between ball stretching and shocking while he remains chaste. The shocker is fun because it’s remote; you just push the button for a surprise or to correct bad behavior. If he jerks around and someone asks, he can simply say it was back spasms… haha.
I want to emphasize how much I enjoy controlling his cock as his wife. At first, being busy meant that attaching and locking the devices took away from the experience. Now, however, I have him put on the device and lock it himself while he prepares for the scenarios I plan out (which I will detail below).
Porn sensitivity training: I’ll start with this. By “porn sensitivity,” I mean using the spiked cock ring locked in place so it cannot be removed. I tell my husband to go into the bedroom, strip down, and attach the ring. To ensure he doesn’t touch himself, HE retrieves the handcuffs and puts them on himself. He sits in a chair with his locked cock ring and cuffs; I come in a few minutes later and tie his hands behind the chair’s backrest. For extra excitement, I use either nipple clamps or a ball gag, sometimes both, just one, or neither depending on what feels right. You have to vary it up to keep things interesting. Of course, you can use any toy you like; I recently bought an electro-shock device that I attach occasionally.
Every man watches porn—if they say otherwise, they are lying. I am fine with him watching as long as he does so on my terms: locked in a chair, surrounded by randomly chosen toys and his spiked ring. I put on something that turns him on, like lesbian or bondage videos, or sometimes classic male/female content. Sometimes it is via laptop in the closet; other times right there in the bedroom. Once I start the video, he cannot pause or stop it.
His goal is to avoid getting erect. If he does, the spikes from the cock ring press into his manhood causing discomfort but no damage. I leave him alone for as long as I choose, usually not less than 30 minutes and up to two hours. To add spice to this activity, I like to go into the room and tease him in a few ways:
- I get naked and dance a little for him.
- I lick his glans and/or sensually stroke him.
- I fondle him with my hands.
- I tease him using my vibrator (there are surely other creative methods, but these are what I do). Don’t forget to return him to chastity afterward!
Chastity: I started this for my husband because he wanted to try it, and now that we have settled into the routine, I wouldn’t want to stop. He is always locked in one of two devices: either the plain cage or the birdlocked pico which I reserve for punishment. With both options, he cannot achieve a full erection due to the device size, fulfilling their purpose as well as preventing him from touching himself.
I do not use “porn sensitivity” as a form of punishment; that is a separate activity done at least twice a week. Some weeks it happens daily; others depend on my mood. On average, I would say three times a week.
As mentioned earlier, because I feel uncertain about doing things correctly sometimes, I instruct him to put the devices on when I want them. If he annoys me, I tell him to wear the birdlocked pico, which has soft silicone spikes at the tip that cause real discomfort. He becomes quite different while wearing it because he wants it removed after a few hours. There have been nights where I made him sleep in it.
To reduce complexity and minimize losing keys, I bought several small padlocks with colored number rollers. I keep the combination codes on my phone, so if I want to switch him into the punishment device, I must unlock his current one. To avoid everyone hunting for a specific lock, I leave a few unlocked in the bedroom at all times; this way, he just puts the device on and locks it himself. He trusts me to let him do this without supervision, though occasionally I watch so he knows I am observing.
The key point is that I rarely leave him without any device, except briefly after we have sex. Since his cock is in my total control during that time, he can only get hard when I allow it. Occasionally, I unlock him to let him masturbate, but this isn’t very common. The anticipation and the look in his eyes make me fall madly in love with him all over again; it feels like the bondage of love and lust we felt when we first met. He is attentive to my needs above all else. Sex after he has been removed from chastity is mind-blowing because he never knows exactly when I will take the devices off so we can make love.
To all the wives who are uncertain or “worried about trying this”: trust me, you need to try it; it brings couples closer than before. The hardest part is getting used to the routine and managing the locks during the first two to three weeks. A benefit of unlocking him in public is that you can duck into a bathroom, enter the code, and let him handle switching devices—whether moving from regular chastity, punishment chastity, or porn sensitivity training.
You will find yourself becoming more creative sexually and wanting to do more activities with him, such as bed bondage, spanking, and other pursuits. With his mind focused on being chaste, he is much more open to trying new things than ever before.
So:
- Keep him in regular chastity most of the time.
- Use the punishment device when needed; don’t be afraid. If he needs a lesson, give it to me! I used to get turned off if I was upset, but now I find myself aroused knowing he is about to experience discomfort. Trust me, even if he enjoys pain, this IS a punishment because he cannot unlock or remove the device; it is secured to his body.
- Porn sensitivity training is a vital part of the overall chastity experience—the trifecta of porn, bondage, and the psychological pressure that an erection will be uncomfortable. Don’t forget to pop in occasionally to arouse him!
I also recommend putting on the spiked cock ring when you leave the house while he is alone. With just the regular chastity device, he can still fondle himself without direct contact. Place the ring (or tell him to do so) before leaving; the likelihood of him touching himself increases when you are gone. Keep that ring on until you return. He will feel discomfort if aroused and must consciously decide not to touch himself.
Please post a reply if you try this, let me know how it goes, and share any suggestions for creativity. Do not be afraid or hesitant about your abilities. If unsure what to do, ask him! You don’t need to know everything; like anything else, it is a learning process. Enjoy making chastity part of your lifestyle, stay consistent, even in public, and you will wonder why you didn’t do this sooner.
trust me! Don’t wait to get started. June