Taking Time Off From Lockup

These days my time in the cage seems to be stretching out more and more. It’s not really that we are pushing for it, it just happens naturally. Life has been crazy around here and we haven’t had much quality time together. She is a few weeks away from finishing her Master’s Degree and saying I have been busy at work would be an understatement. Lots of events, short staffed, long hours, on and on it goes. Other family obligations, general life stuff, you get the idea.

We are still “new” to chastity, about 6 months together now, and still feeling things out generally speaking I stay locked while we aren’t actually together and that has been just fine for me. She isn’t super into the whole thing yet; she hides the key, likes the benefits she gets, and does it mostly to make me happy.

The other morning my son wanted to go swimming. With fall around the corner and summer swimming coming to an end soon I was more than happy too. I’m not comfortable swimming in my Jailbird and she always lets me take it off for that. I didn’t know where the key was but instead of asking her if I could get out, I didn’t want to waste time, found the key in the first spot I looked and off to the pool I went.

Without giving it much thought I never re-locked up and just went about my day. Later that night when getting out of the shower she saw me uncaged and called me out for cheating. I simply shrugged and said I haven’t done anything yet so technically I haven’t cheated the system. I asked her if she wanted me to lock back up and she told me it was up to me, to do whatever I wanted.

I could tell she was more disappointed at me for unlocking without asking than mad at me. We have never been strict with rules, or really set any for that matter, and I have always had this feeling she participates because she loves me not because she loves the whole concept well two days later I still haven’t locked back up, we haven’t had a chance to talk further and until we do I really don’t want to lock up.

She forgets at times I’m even wearing it which can get a bit frustrating. I ask myself why drive myself crazy only to be forgotten about? Until we talk more about the “game” I’m done. I guess the whole point of this is that I was more surprised by her disappointment with me unlocking than anything else. I didn’t realize it mattered to her that much. We have a bit to talk about. I’m off work tomorrow and I hope we get a chance to figure it out then. Maybe she is making a turn in this whole thing and didn’t realize what it meant to her until now.