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I guess it started at the beginning.

So, I’ve been married for six years to a wonderful wife. There’s an eight-year age gap (she is younger; I am 45), and we have two children aged four and twenty months. I thought including those details might help others in similar situations relate. It seems much simpler to be incredibly kinky when no one else lives with you anyway, but let me get back on track.

Earlier this year, the idea struck me that I wanted to experience what chastity felt like. I bought a plastic device from an online store and started playing around with it solo. I wore it to work several times without anyone noticing. I even managed to wear it at home without my wife knowing (since in our marriage, I usually have to initiate all sexual contact). After about a week, that first device broke, so I ordered a metal one instead. By then, I had decided to introduce this new kink of mine to her.

After we discussed it, she wasn’t freaked out but seemed unsure about what her “role” should be. When I first handed over the keys, I made plenty of mistakes; essentially, I was trying to top from the bottom too much. Her main concern was that she didn’t want this to feel like work. She already spends most of the day caring for two young children and didn’t want to feel responsible for me as well initially. I became quite frustrated and moody because she wasn’t teasing me, making it seem like she couldn’t care less that I was locked up. It felt frustratingly like any affection still depended entirely on me. After a couple of weeks, I stopped wearing the device.

A few months later, we talked again, and I told her I had learned from my mistakes, so far things have been good. I don’t expect much teasing from her regarding that aspect. However, I wish to God she would take a more active role; some days she does, which are the best days. I got a better-fitting device—a cheap metal one (see avatar)—and have worn it almost 24/7 since July 13th, with only a few days off during vacations.

One interesting thing is that she prefers normal sex… missionary style. With standard intercourse, I can usually bring her four or five orgasms. In contrast, when giving oral, she orgasms but then needs me to stop all contact with her clitoris because it becomes too stimulating for her to continue further interaction, much like a guy does. Not sure if this is true for all women, though porn certainly doesn’t show it that way (which rarely reflects reality anyway). Now, she loves receiving oral and finds it really pleasant; she just likes being properly fucked (who wouldn’t).

I’d love to hear from others: Is my wife not very sexual by nature? She isn’t particularly fond of her body (having had two kids) and was always self-conscious even when she was thin. I doubt she can remember the last time she masturbated. Whenever we discuss fantasies, she claims she doesn’t have any. She wonders if this is normal since my head is full of so many swimming around in it. I assure her that it is.

So, that’s basically where things stand. My birthday is coming up in a couple of months, and I’ve already asked for a month-long lockup with complete denial. I also requested at least one tease/denial session per week. Hopefully, she grants my wishes. Until then, I continue striving to be a better husband. I rub her feet nearly every night and give oral whenever she wants. She decides when we have sex, and if I get to cum (so far, she almost always lets me).

Thanks for reading, and I look forward to any comments.