Introductions discussion

I’m approaching sixty and have been married for a long time. Last year, prostate issues forced me into surgery to fix them. I underwent a Transurethral Resection of the Prostate (TURP), which some folks jokingly call a Roto-Rooter procedure. Everything seemed fine post-op, except for retrograde ejaculation, which they assured me would be permanent. Instead of semen shooting out externally, it goes back into my bladder and exits later when I urinate. I checked my urine samples and could see the sediment settled at the bottom. It felt like a brief tickle initially. However, after repeating this several times, I became unsure if it was actually happening; sometimes no visible semen appeared in the sample. My conclusion is that my body produces very little semen now—barely enough for some weekly relief.

Thanks to an article I found, I’ve started taking Horney Goat weed, Pygeum, and Lecithin to boost both semen production and libido.

Now onto chastity. I’ve been lurking on various forums for years, dreaming about FLR (Female Led Relationship) and being locked up. My wife has never shown much interest; she finds it too vanilla.

It’s time for new adventures in life. Chastity is the path forward. I purchased a device, and my wife knows about it but isn’t exactly supportive. Her main gripes are that I don’t pay enough attention to her and everything revolves around me. Now I just need to convince her that chastity can solve those issues!

My first piece was a Bon4MPlus; you can see it in my avatar. What a waste of money! The device felt either too big or way too large. The back rings were the wrong size, whether too loose or tight. Did I mention the square corners and limited spacing options? You had to choose between round or round/solid designs. Plus, I spent ages polishing it constantly!

Did I mention that the custom declaration form asked for a “BON4M Device”? The mail carrier gave me such a funny look when she handed it over. I’m pretty sure she knew exactly what was written and what kind of device it was.

I quickly switched my focus to a Mature Metal Jailbird. I followed Pansy Tarts’ sizing guide thread, but that turned out to be a bad move!

I placed the order and waited impatiently. Then I started adding extra back rings to the mix. Mistress Mature Metal (MM) contacted me quickly regarding potential sizing errors in my orders. We sorted out the correct cage dimension together. Just before finalizing, I arbitrarily decided on a shorter cage length!

Who would have guessed that the experts actually know what they’re talking about? So now I have a much better-fitting cage and a pile of back rings to choose from. The MM sizing method suggests the best ring size. The diameter is spot on, and while the current length works, it might be improved (or not) by purchasing the specific size recommended in M&M’s instructions.

I’ve selected back rings with 3/8” and 1/2” spacing. Currently, the 1/2” seems ideal. Later, I’m confident my body will adjust to the 3/8”, which should work fine too. I also want to experiment with smaller back rings that might suit me better once fully adjusted.

However, combining the cage size and back ring size identified by M&M’s method works really well!

I’m currently working through my first week of wear. In fact, I wore it for work on my last day there recently. Right now, my plan is to keep wearing it at work next week to complete that full seven-day cycle.

Well, Mistress Mature Metal was right! It fits perfectly!

Previously, I had worn the BON4M in small sizes during nights and weekends but not while working. I took it out anticipating the Jailbird’s arrival soon. The Jailbird from Mature Metal arrived on Tuesday last week, and I realized it had gotten there by midday Wednesday. So off it went onto my body!

I have possession of the keys and have been testing various rings along with punishment pins.

My measurements settled at a 1.25” diameter cage with a length of 2”, paired with a 1 3/4” back ring. I decided arbitrarily to try a 1.75” length, which fits well. I ordered all nine punishment pins plus single back rings ranging from 1 1/2” to 1 7/8”, along with one double back ring in the 1 3/4” size.

So here is where things stand after nearly a week: I wore it to work last Thursday and ended up doing a fourteen-hour shift. I’m wearing it today as well.

At work, I wear cargo pocket trousers, which show no bulge at all. I switched to David Archy pouch underwear to support the weight and prevent my leg hair from scratching my scrotum. What surprised me was how aware I was of the device initially; this interfered with my sleep because I prefer hanging freely and felt its weight pulling down. I kept waking up to check that everything looked normal. By yesterday, day four of full-time wear, it felt normal most of the time without needing adjustments via tugging on the scrotum. Last night was a good night’s sleep; I woke just before my alarm went off. Today at work has been mostly uneventful too, with no need to readjust its position throughout the day. Walking around freely now, I don’t feel any weight—just normalcy. I think my body is adjusting.

When my work week ends, I plan to swap in the next smaller back ring for the whole weekend. If it goes well, I’ll wear that one to work the following week as well.

I did experience some minor issues with the punishment pins. I learned to wait until the sizing settles into the cage before inserting them. I currently have two nice sores where I pushed my member in too far and then pinned/locked it. Fortunately, these aren’t under the pin holes themselves. I’m wearing a pain-relief pin while they heal. Thank goodness for antibiotic cream!

So if you’re new to this, buy the sizing rings from Mature Metal to determine which cage size and back ring size you need. To find your back ring size, wear it for at least one day, preferably several days longer. Determining length and girth requires shrinkage that is noticeable but not microscopic.

Mistress Mature Metal has been very easy to work with.