Balancing Between Resentment and Connection

Perhaps I’m a bit high-maintenance. My wife tends to have long stretches where she’s not very into sexual play, followed by brief bursts of stronger desire. When she goes about her day without reacting to my subtle touches or when she doesn’t grab hold of my chaste cock or do anything else for me, I begin to feel slighted and bitter about it. I realize this isn’t ideal. If I step back and think logically, I remind myself that sooner or later she always comes back around to that sensual zone I crave. But who really stays rational?