Wife Becomes My Mistress

As I noted in another thread, my wife didn’t realize we’ve been in a chastity setup with teasing and denial for five years. She believed it had only just passed the one-year mark until I presented her with the receipts for my initial cage and the device I’ve worn continuously over the last four years. Since I am constantly conscious of being locked, she doesn’t dwell on it much and has grown accustomed to it as normal life.

A similar situation occurred when we shared her girlfriend; she didn’t realize that arrangement had lasted three decades, with our threesomes essentially becoming regular sex for us. Heck, despite nearly 3,000 sexual encounters with women over the past 45 years, I asked my wife if she considered herself bisexual at age 63. She said she hadn’t really thought about it before but guessed so because she enjoys sex with both men and girls to a lesser degree. However, outside of marriage, she only dates or has romances with men.

Today was significant. My wife complained that my horniness after two months of denial was becoming too much, leading her to consider letting me cum just to silence me. I don’t want her to feel burdened by this decision. She retreated to her collection of books on Chastity and FLR (Female Led Relationship). Consequently, we are returning to domestic discipline, which I dread. When she commits to it, she goes full force from start to finish, leaving deep bruises with her paddle and welts with her cane. No more empty threats.

She also surprised me by asking me to call her Mistress. She has always hated that title, likely because it conjures an image of a woman clad in leather beating men and treating them like slaves. She made it clear she doesn’t want a slave for a husband, as that would change how she views me as her protector. Now I am required to use the title because she read somewhere that calling her Mistress reinforces my submissiveness outside the bedroom.

We have always had an odd dynamic. Inside the bedroom, I am fully submissive; she can do whatever she pleases with me. But once we leave the bedroom, she reverts to being submissive to me. This worked well enough during our BDSM days, but chastity isn’t confined to the bedroom. I am locked at all times and teased daily. Previously, my marital dominance allowed me to play with her naughty bits whenever I was horny until she had enough.

My wife is starting to recognize the power of her vagina. Some women learn early on how to use it to their advantage. It used to be that her body belonged to me, and if I asked for access, she granted it. Now, however, she has grown accustomed to denying me intercourse—a state we haven’t experienced in as long as we can remember. She seems to be extending the dominant feelings she holds within our marriage into other areas.

Will this last? Probably not entirely, given that she is a traditional wife raised to put her husband first. For now, I call her Mistress and expect to be paddled or caned sometime this weekend. It could have been worse; for several months two years ago, she had me wearing panties and bras all day, even sleeping in negligees.

Each year she becomes stricter, and no longer do I see fear in her eyes when she commands me to do something she knows I dislike. This stems from what used to happen to her under her abusive alcoholic father. I understand this background and don’t push back; I provide the information and let her proceed at her own pace.

The positive aspect is that each year, she likes to change things to keep them fresh. We moved from orgasm control to erection control. Our schedule shifted from twice-monthly orgasms to every four months, potentially dropping to just one or two in 2018. She experimented with feminization and domestic discipline, making the rules stricter annually.

I believe that showing her the receipts for my first device helped when she realized we had been doing this for nearly five years rather than just a year or two. It reinforced that nothing terrible happens if she dominates me; there is no reason to fear me. I never gave her cause, considering her past. We even did exercises where she would slap my face simply to learn that I would not hit back.

Our chastity arrangement remains a work in progress and defines our sex life until age or medical issues force us to stop. My wife’s longtime girlfriend required me to call her Mistress during our S&M games, but feeling awkward calling my own wife that today was unexpected. I thought I might enjoy it, but instead, it felt strange.