Introductions discussion

Hi Everyone, I am one of those fortunate husbands who has been married to my lovely wife for over a decade. For as long as I can recall, I have dreamed about being dominated by women in general and by my spouse specifically. A few years back, I shared this deep wish with her: the desire to be spanked (or punished) by her. At that time, she seemed quite put off. About twelve months later, I tried again; I purchased a cb200 and presented it to her, yet once more, she was not impressed… This left me feeling very disappointed and hurt. Reflecting on those moments now, I see my error: I had introduced her to the “male fantasy” version of these dynamics rather than taking things slowly so she could find her own rhythm. But last week brought a shift!:) I began discussing chastity again and noticed that the concept itself does not bother her. We chatted, ensuring she had space to think and speak without me pushing my fantasy onto her. Several days later, I proposed buying a chastity cage so we could see where things went. Surprisingly, she didn’t object. I acquired a cb6000 model. I put it on when she was out of the house, taking some time to ensure it fitted well. That evening, I told her I had it secured; she asked how it felt, and we carried on with our usual routine. The following day… we discussed it again, showing each other the key… She seemed a bit more open to the idea … At one point, when I suggested she hide the key, she agreed. She didn’t look thrilled but was willing to give it a go and see how it felt for her. I believe she said yes because she saw just how eager I am to experience this fantasy. The events since then feel almost like fiction to me. If I were to detail the development from that point, people here might chuckle and say “Another solitary male spinning his chastity tales”. I won’t go into every little detail because there are many of them, and I don’t want to bore you. Please believe me though; my experience is genuine. My wife is the most traditional spouse living in New York state. She is a wonderful partner who would do anything to bring me happiness. Yet, taking charge of someone else -in any manner- goes against her natural temperament. And yet… she is beginning to enjoy the idea… I can see the smile on her face as we talk about our upcoming “releasing date”. I wouldn’t say she has become fully “dominating”, nor am I claiming she is eager to create ‘rules’ and such… However, she holds the key and refuses to let me out until the day we decide… She tells me that she likes it. She enjoys the attention I pay her. She appreciates knowing that my sexual thoughts are kept in check by her presence… Needless to say, I am going wild with desire for her. I am amazed at how much this small lock affects me personally. My love for her has grown deeper than ever; I crave her more intensely. We have become incredibly close. The love notes, emails, and texts she receives from me make me wonder if I’ve lost my mind… I ask myself “What is happening to me?” Wow… I seem to have written quite a lot here. Apologies for the lengthy essay; it wasn’t originally planned this way. I wanted to share my happiness in a community where I feel understood. My concern is that, since things are so wonderfully good right now, they might not last. I want my wife to explore more of this lifestyle without feeling guilty about “keeping me locked up”. Yes, I know she could be advised to read here (and other online resources). The issue is that other aspects of female domination still turn her off at present. She cannot bear looking at an image of a man in handcuffs. The one thing she has started to appreciate is keeping the key! Knowing that all my sexual energy remains reserved for her. Naturally, she loves how I treat her with respect, helping out more than ever before, expressing my love in countless ways and so much more. Therefore, I doubt she will connect deeply with the forum itself which seems rather “advanced” to her. She is a nervous beginner who has to battle her guilt when telling me “You must wait, dear man”. ** I would appreciate any recommendations for a female marriage counselor (or similar professional) whom she could consult. Someone who will help her explore what she enjoys about holding the key, hopefully helping her become more assertive and dominant over time, enjoying the power of control etc… Also, it would mean the world to her if she could communicate -personally or in a forum- with real women who have navigated this “awkward start” and now thrive in a full chastity lifestyle involving tease & denial, games, ‘rules’, and whatever else comes along… I want her to find someone she can discuss her situation with and share her feelings about all of this; someone willing to coach her through this lifestyle at her own pace as she discovers the power within… Someone who truly feels that this way of life strengthens their marriage and draws them closer… ( And perhaps, one day, she might discover the joy of spanking or using a strap-on. But let’s not get ahead of ourselves just yet.) **

I am living my dream! It is far better than I ever imagined! I want this to continue and evolve into something permanent. I don’t want it to become ‘boring’ for us; I want my wife to further embrace this dynamic, and I am certain that once she sees more of it, she will warm up to being a “strict” key-holder and possibly other ideas related to chastity. Wow, did you really read all the way through? Thank you:-) I truly appreciate it. Thank you! It is time for me to stop writing now. Enjoying the present moment and hoping for more…