Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Back in my younger days (ahem), when jack and I were still just a D/s pair before the cuckoldry and chastity came into play, we used to have quite a bit of fun with flirting—mostly me doing it, naturally. When we went out to parties or similar events, I would deliberately flirt with attractive men while making sure jack could see exactly what was happening. It wasn’t something we planned ahead; my mischievous mind just liked pulling his strings. After getting back home, I’d enjoy some very satisfying self-pleasure. He knew better than to get sulky because I held the reins, yet he looked so forlorn watching me have a good time while he was kept waiting and denied. So, do non-cuckolded cage owners find their wives/girlfriends/key holders pulling his strings in similar ways? Or you ladies, how about pressing his buttons similarly?