Introductions discussion

For the past two decades I’ve had trouble reaching an orgasm from anything other than self-pleasure. About fifteen of those years have been spent in marriage, and my tolerant spouse has handled it well. Throughout our time together, after we finish intercourse, we stay in bed while I masturbate next to her until I’m done. We’re considering trying for a baby, but she doesn’t want me to just stop mid-masturbation and roll over onto her, nor does she fancy the turkey baster approach. Last night, though, she started showing me links on Amazon for chastity cages along with blog posts explaining how these devices can help bring back sensitivity in the penis. I usually masturbate four or five times a week, watching porn every time, and have very little restraint when it comes to self-pleasure.

We checked out a site discussing cock locks and locking up to regain sensation & reduce frequent masturbation. We ordered an HT V2 knockoff on Amazon, which arrived last Friday. She put me in the cage that night and gave me one week to adjust. It was quite a roller coaster of emotions for me during those seven days. By day three, she established the rule that we wouldn’t discuss my status unless SHE started talking about it first. If I kept bringing it up constantly, she would add more days to my confinement. That’s when I really realized how much control she holds in this dynamic. It hit me hard like a ton of bricks. Over the next few days, she characterized my mood and demeanor as depressed, sad, and withdrawn. She noted that during the week I gave her countless massages and paid closer attention to what she was saying than her closest friends did. My attitude grew increasingly downcast throughout those days.

I set a goal of 7 days, and true to form, we had sex last night. I couldn’t cum this time but felt more sensation, so it seems like the process is working over time. She mentioned that I could stay out of the cage for 24 hours now so we can discuss the experience and decide our next steps. Today we talked things through; she explained my depression and how an extreme submissive role developed during the week. I shared some feelings, including how much power I felt she had over me. She remarked that yesterday’s sex felt more like pity sex due to my pathetic demeanor.

My 24-hour window ended a few hours ago, and the lock went back on. She said this poor attitude and depression will result in adding days to my release calendar going forward. I hope to be more emotionally balanced this week and avoid longer-term confinement. I’ve read some Reddit threads about long-term wearers, and while last week was tough enough for me, I wonder how you all manage it for weeks or months—乃至 years. Either way, I’m using the device as a tool to regain feeling while curbing my self-love and porn habits. I actually enjoyed the week and taking on that submissive role in our relationship, though I might cause issues if I don’t find a way to keep my head up higher during future confinement sessions. She stated that 7 days is about what she can handle at one time because she doesn’t want to deny herself sex just due to my issue. That makes sense.

Anyway, I’m rambling. Just wanted to introduce myself.