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2026-09-09T22:40:00.000Z #1

I have always had a strong attraction to chastity and denial. For some people, it is an enjoyable kink; for others, it becomes their way of life. Personally, I viewed it as a fun side interest for quite a while, but since my wife and I started practicing chastity together again, this time feels different. Something inside me has shifted. It doesn’t feel like just a playful game anymore. It feels more significant. The denial of male orgasms resonates deeply with me; it seems to fit perfectly. While the device is still necessary for me, that isn’t the main focus now. What matters most is the denial itself and how it affects my emotions. Being denied by my wife creates an amazing sensation and leaves me incredibly aroused. Recently, these sensations are evolving into submissive feelings, which is a new experience for me. Some might argue this is standard behavior, but since I have never been submissive to her before, it feels quite novel. It is something I am finding difficult to fully grasp. It seems slightly unnatural yet simultaneously boosts my libido greatly. Perhaps that is normal? Maybe punishment fits naturally into an FLR structure? I wonder how I would react if she punished me; perhaps I would laugh the first time! However, I believe she has the capacity for dominance in certain situations. Honestly, this is where I stand: I am creating the right conditions for her to be a dominant wife, even if she isn’t fully aware of it yet. And truly, I don’t do these things merely to trick her. I handle most or all household chores because my schedule permits it, just as I have in the past. Her job demands so much time and mental energy that I feel responsible for managing these tasks to give her peace of mind and more quality time with me and our children. This doesn’t necessarily feel submissive to me; rather, it feels essential. Honestly, I don’t derive pure joy from doing them—it is just something that must be done. I do various things to assist her and constantly look for new ways to help. Recently, I suggested filling up the car with gas during winter since she dislikes that task greatly. A few weeks later, it became a routine expectation. For me, these submissive feelings stem from giving her sexual pleasure without expecting anything in return. She understands my stance on this and has accepted it, perhaps even embracing it wholeheartedly. Although I struggle with sexual frustration like any other man, it feels more natural to the situation. I know that once I orgasm, the dynamic shifts; I will no longer feel as motivated to serve her. Yet, I also know she deserves a clean house and dinner ready when she returns home. Her smile, hug, and heartfelt thanks at the end of the day usually ease my frustrations. I can see she truly appreciates the effort I put in alongside my regular job duties. So yes, it all seems worthwhile in the long run. It feels strange to perform these acts for her in a sexually charged manner while knowing relief is delayed, but that very fact motivates me further. Honestly, I have no idea why this works so well, yet it does. It also feels more natural than our previous dynamic. Without a doubt, sex serves the woman’s pleasure above all else. Don’t misunderstand; I enjoy plenty myself too. But my primary goal is her satisfaction. I love watching her blush when I tell her how much I want to perform oral on her. I say this often. I even send text messages throughout the day just for her. She usually replies that I am being naughty lol. I appreciate her occasional vanilla nature.

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2026-09-10T02:57:06.825Z #2

> ineverknew said: > For me it has been a fun kink for some time but with starting chastity again with my wife, this time is different. Something has changed in me. It no longer feels like a fun game to play. It feels more serious. > > --- ... lately these feelings are developing into submissive feelings which is new to me. I'm sure some would say thats normal but for me I've never been submissive to my wife, so its definitely new. Its something I'm struggling to understand. It feels somewhat unnatural to me yet makes me incredibly horny at the same time. Maybe thats normal. Maybe thats why punishments are a natural part of a FLR? > --- So I feel its duty to take care of these things to give her peace of mind and time to spend with me and the kids. that doesnt feel submissive to me, it feels necessary and honestly I get no joy from doing that, its something that has to be done. I do all kinds of things to help her out and I'm constantly looking for new ones. > --- She knows my feelings on this and has accepted them. Maybe even a little too much. > --- ... my frustrations are usually alleviated when she comes home and smiles, gives me a hug and a big thank you. I can tell she really appreciates the work I put in on top of my daily job. So yes it all seems worth while in the long run. It truly feels strange to do all of these things for her in a sort of sexually charged way when I know I won't be getting any relief. And that actually motivates me even more. I can honestly say I dont have a clue as to why this works but it seems to. It also feels more natural than the way things were before. I can say without a doubt that sex is for the woman's pleasure. Dont get me wrong though, I get plenty of pleasure myself. But my main goal is her pleasure. I love how she blushes when I tell her how much i want to go down on her. I tell her that all the time. I even send her text messages throughout the day. She just says i'm naughty lol. I love how vanilla she is at times. > Click to expand... Glad to see you writing, and I'm happy to hear you're feeling connection on a deeper level this time around.:) I remember you mentioning you both enjoy when you are 'dominant' with her. I am curious: is that based in primal desire, or an actual power exchange? Our natural anatomies certainly make it easy for you guys to fuck us more 'forcefully' than we can reciprocate (sorta:D ), so I am wondering how much primal urges come into play when someone doesn't identify as 'submissive'... I imagine that'd be confusing, considering they enjoy the former so much. I can see why you'd say punishments are natural, but they do not exist in all FLRs. I wouldn't say I've ever sexually punished pet. When I've felt discipline was necessary, sex and touch were off the table entirely. I'm glad I haven't had to do that often, as it's not something I enjoy. Now, physical play involving a bit of pain? That's a bit different... but I suppose that's (yet another) tomato/tomahto situation.:) It's nice to see you care for her in 'regular' ways. Many people don't realize how much small gestures in the every day, mundane life can improve relationships. I'm glad to hear you do, and it's not something you're automatically tying into sex. I truly believe focusing on her pleasure and discovering new ways to do so will certainly set you on the right path towards making her... and subsequently, yourself... happy. Must ask, since the line left Me curious: what did you mean by she might be accepting your feelings 'too much'? Looking forward to your next updates.:)

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2026-09-10T09:37:57.213Z #3

You've chosen a provocative headline for sure, ineverknew. So here is the little space in the WWW where you might find much approval, but out there in "the rest of the world"...? Agree very much with breathe, and her lines: "how much small gestures in the every day, mundane life can improve relationships. I'm glad to hear you do, and it's not something you're automatically tying into sex." So if it's about sex I prefer the blunt answer to the old question about "who wears the pants in a good relationship?" And my answer allways will be: "especially at weekends: none!":):D

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2026-09-10T17:33:29.022Z #4

I think you and I share some similar thoughts. Though I would be more specific and say that orgasms are a pleasure best suited to women. Men should derive their satisfaction from bringing their partner to climax; otherwise, it is just a dull and boring chore. We are in our third year of chastity and we’ve reached the conclusion that men just aren’t biologically or psychologically designed for frequent orgasms, with less being better. The male sex drive relies entirely on NOT orgasming. Give a man an orgasm and he’s immediately disinterested in further sexual activity. Depending on age and health, this lack of interest can last many hours to several days. Deny a man any form of orgasm, and he becomes ready and eager to please his lady anytime as frequently as she wishes. And psychologically, a man who is accustomed to orgasm has one directive: reach it as quickly as possible. Get in her, thrust, and squirt as rapidly as possible. Then it’s game over. But a man trained not to orgasm is psychologically much more capable of pleasing his partner. He learns not to make his own climax the primary goal (since there won't be any for him), but instead to enjoy the excitement of satisfying his lady to whatever degree she desires. He feels validated by knowing she is pleased, and she benefits from his psychological commitment via focused and dedicated sexual attention. Sex as a concept applies to both male and female, but the privilege and delight of orgasm is best suited to the woman.

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