Female led relationships discussion

Hmm. . . There's a related fetish known as "CFNM" (clothed female, naked male) you might want to look into. Participants actually throw parties, where the guys have to be completely nude, and wait on the (fully clothed) women. Depending on the group, the atmosphere ranges from formal tea party to . . . more risqué, with one rule in common - the women have to stay fully clothed, and the guys have to do what they say. Might be a way for you to indulge, with worrying about friends/family crashing the fun.

We have a similar arrangement to yours, except that when we are at home nudity is the norm. When we are out we wear as little as possible. I can see why you are cementing the divide, but we were nudists long before finding chastity, and it works for us. We do have the advantage of a better climate, and nudity seems more acceptable as a lifestyle to many people here anyway. I agree with your points 2 to 4, with the slight difference that I like instant access to be a two way street! When we started caged chastity the random caller issue was way up there on the decision list. What we decided, and keep to, is as you put it "sod it". It's our house, our rules. We live in the sticks, so don't get a stream of cold callers trying to sell double glazing, allegedly cheaper broadband, dodgy housewares, etc. Our friends know about our lifestyle, and accept it, albeit some think we are as mad as a box of frogs. Those who objected seem to have done a runner, as far as we are concerned that's their problem, not ours. We have discovered who likes us for what we are rather than what we have, and I much prefer to have fewer but more open minded friends. We don't keep Ian locked all the time, so visitors may find naked people or naked people plus extras. As I say to first time viewers, is a cage any different from a piercing? To me it is an alternative form of body jewellery (without the ouch factor when fitted) and should be no big issue. We have found that after a while our visitors just take it for granted. So should all your visitors know the score? That has to be your decision. It's probably as well to keep a dressing gown available for when the vicar or similar calls, but otherwise why not? Love and feliz navidad Jane X

> Casual_Reader said: > Hmm. . . There's a related fetish known as "CFNM" (clothed female, naked male) you might want to look into. Participants actually throw parties, where the guys have to be completely nude, and wait on the (fully clothed) women. Depending on the group, the atmosphere ranges from formal tea party to . . . more risqué, with one rule in common - the women have to stay fully clothed, and the guys have to do what they say. > Might be a way for you to indulge, with worrying about friends/family crashing the fun. > Click to expand... Yes, fully up on CFNM. Been to parties and is great fun. It's the home dynamic more really. Just hate having my rhythm spoilt.;)

Never been to CFNM, though often been to parties where it's been SCON... some clothed, others not! It does sound an interesting way of spending time with friends, I'll make some overtures and see if it's a goer for NYE Jane X

> thefemdecided said: > We have a similar arrangement to yours, except that when we are at home nudity is the norm. When we are out we wear as little as possible. I can see why you are cementing the divide, but we were nudists long before finding chastity, and it works for us. We do have the advantage of a better climate, and nudity seems more acceptable as a lifestyle to many people here anyway. > Love your climate. That certainly affords more opportunities. > We don't keep Ian locked all the time, so visitors may find naked people or naked people plus extras. As I say to first time viewers, is a cage any different from a piercing? To me it is an alternative form of body jewellery (without the ouch factor when fitted) and should be no big issue. We have found that after a while our visitors just take it for granted. > Like the body jewellery idea. But jack will remain locked at all times. > So should all your visitors know the score? That has to be your decision. It's probably as well to keep a dressing gown available for when the vicar or similar calls, but otherwise why not? > Yes, you're right... why not! > Love and feliz navidad > Jane > X > Click to expand... Love your climate, I think that gives so many more opportunities.

> thefemdecided said: > Never been to CFNM, though often been to parties where it's been SCON... some clothed, others not! It does sound an interesting way of spending time with friends, I'll make some overtures and see if it's a goer for NYE > Jane > X > Click to expand... Saw my first ever castrated male at one of these......SCARY!

By the way, I don't see sissies in the same way! sissies are girls and should remain clothed in the presence of nude caged men. This is something jack and I have discussed and he sees the logic.