Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

member_18b4bf4474 · 2026-09-08T10:37:55.000Z · 4 replies

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2026-09-08T10:37:55.000Z #1

We used to enjoy recounting our wild nights together. Lately, though, it has lost its charm because someone always claims I’ve violated a Femdom Rule while telling the tale, sparking complaints. So we stopped sharing our tales, and fewer people do now too. Kudos for that. Real folks just can’t seem to share genuine stories about their lives in chastity here.

I visit every day hoping to find something worthwhile, but it’s been a disappointment for weeks.

Why so few women? It would help if the current female members stopped constantly complaining about the site and its users. My KH gets hit just as hard by this endless swarm of horny guys as any other active woman here. We can’t change that fact. What we could improve is how existing women treat newcomers: connect with them, chat, answer questions, reach out—basically act like normal people in a social setting (a reasonable request, really). But they don’t.

I’ve had some genuinely useful talks with other men here. I asked Her if any female members have reached out to her for chit-chat or advice over the years. The reply is always no.

Blame the dick pictures, blame those cock cage avatars (I find them irritating myself), blame the guys, blame the web—whatever. There aren’t more women here because existing women offer little support to new ones and show very little love for this place in their own posts. I’m sure that swarm of horny men is bothersome, but capable women can handle it, right? Do site ladies think their femininity is so fragile they must ignore everything that irritates them? Honestly, that’s one of the more sexist and belittling claims tossed around here. The reality is: new women arrive, maybe get annoyed by the horny guys for a moment, but mostly they see existing women (and even female mods) looking miserable, disliking the membership, and preferring to argue over anything else.

Thread after thread, same people complain about the same issues while offering little of substance beyond boring “what films did you watch?” chatter. That’s not why we came here. Those talks WILL happen once people get familiar with each other. But you can’t force it. Communities evolve; they aren’t constructed artificially. You can ruin them by forcing lame threads that pretend to be normal discussions. And when members leave almost daily due to harassment from a tiny minority who believe in their own superiority, we’re going the wrong way. Those leaving or falling silent are not part of the horny swarm—you realize this? The swarm mostly lurks. People back away because they no longer feel welcome or entertained. Think about it.

Anyway, I know nothing for sure, and everything I just wrote might be nonsense. But one thing is clear: I used to like checking in here; now I don’t.

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2026-09-08T12:31:47.224Z #2

I certainly haven’t commented on any of your threads. You agree about the avatars, good:) It looks like more people dislike them than appreciate them. It seems you are complaining quite a bit.

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2026-09-08T20:48:41.848Z #3

[QUOTE="Thatguyontheinternet, post: 213924, member: 41227" I have asked Her if there's been anyone - any female member - who has reached out to her, wanted to chitchat, provide advice, whatever. The answer is always no. [/QUOTE] She hasn’t reached out to me either. But I talk with everyone who writes.

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2026-09-09T00:42:49.336Z #4

Hum... it seems you responded to this very point, thus contradicting yourself. Anyway, I agree with everything my locked boy says and more. CM has become annoying and dull. I used to enjoy posting here, but no longer due to the constant barrage of complaints and arguments. He isn’t just complaining; he is making a sharp observation about the current state of CM. I ignore the fixed dick pics; if a thread doesn't interest me, I don’t join in. Very simple. This is our community, and whether we like it or not, the VAST majority are locked males. Personally, I do not think we should strive to be “female friendly.” Why? Because a woman comes here knowing exactly what this place is about. If she can’t handle an occasional off-putting thread (perhaps drinking pee?), then maybe this isn't her spot. With chastity come many kinks, some beyond my comfort zone. But that doesn't mean I’ll leave; CM provides valuable space to discuss the female aspect of male chastity, which I cannot do with my vanilla friends.

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2026-09-09T06:28:19.864Z #5

FYI... not looking for a fight. Just stating facts as I see them. Back to lurking until things return to semi-normalcy.

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