Introductions discussion

Greetings everyone, I stumbled upon this group while looking up chastity on Google. BDSM has fascinated me since childhood, even though I wasn’t quite sure of its origins back then. For years, I lacked the courage to share it with others because my environment didn’t really embrace it. Back in those younger days, I read extensively about BDSM and crafted some DIY gear while also picking up a few early devices. Later on, I married and chose to keep these passions hidden away. But emotions don’t stay buried or easily denied forever. My spouse is wonderful, and I truly hate the idea of hurting her (even if I might be already), yet intimate matters aren’t really her passion. A while back, I tried using some card games as a way to spark more conversation about it, but that effort didn’t quite catch on. The occasional television programs focused on enhancing our sex life also don’t quite click for me. Recently, however, I’ve begun experimenting solo with chastity gear during my frequent work trips, hoping this will help bridge the gap with her and show how she can benefit too. It might be a bit of a misstep in direction. I’m eager to hear from others about their experiences and paths. Cheers, Rob