Personal ads - Looking for a keyholder or sub? discussion

member_1deb4ed88c · 2026-09-08T06:45:06.000Z · 6 replies

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2026-09-08T06:45:06.000Z #1

Picture the scene You have found Male Chastity, and it really turns you on—the idea of a woman controlling your orgasms while telling you to lock up your dick and serve her instead. Then you discover how great this is for women because holding the key means the man will want to serve them and do things for them. I mean, what woman wouldn’t want a guy who is willing to go down on her at any moment?

So why are there no Mistresses on these websites? Why isn’t there a queue of women desperate to lock up men and enjoy their attentions when so many of you want to be locked up?

Because it’s not fun for the females.

What benefit does a woman get from telling a guy to lock up when he is not physically present?

Oh, we’ve seen all those posts. You say she could go on cam to show her how much you appreciate her—but I’m sorry, what exactly do you want her to do? Edge so she can see your frustration? Crawl around the floor and kiss some imaginary feet?

You can send emails too. To tell her what? How fabulous she is, how horny you are, how frustrated you feel?

What is she doing while you’re telling her all about your frustration? Laughing at you is probably the most common answer; aside from that, maybe you’re breaking up her boredom. Getting sexually aroused is likely way down the list if it’s even on there. There isn’t much to encourage a lady to give up the time and energy required to keep someone in chastity. Even before I turned professional, I expected my efforts to be acknowledged with a gift.

Who would she be keeping? Most posts seeking a mistress are bare bones and very obviously show some guy looking to fulfill his fantasy. Why would she want to lock someone she knows nothing about?

Now that we’ve covered that part, what about behavior on websites? There are so few women here that when they appear, they are normally inundated with messages asking them to lock up some unworthy male who is horny and frustrated, etc.

The reason I got into this fetish was because it’s supposed to be all about the female. I was lucky enough to meet some true friends on this site who treated me respectfully—so much so that I am engaged to one of them. So when you talk to a woman here, are you making it all about her, or just telling her how horny and frustrated you are, or sending dick pics?

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that a female coming onto these sites is looking to hear anything sexual when you first speak to them. Most are curious about male chastity and have come to explore. If you treat them with respect, they will probably return; if you treat them as though they are only here to fulfill your fantasy, they will leave.

So in a nutshell, gentlemen, if you’re looking for someone to take control and lock you up, try treating them like a lady rather than a cheap hooker, and you may have more luck.

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2026-09-08T08:20:42.127Z #2

This is 100% accurate!!

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2026-09-08T11:41:08.174Z #3

The link to this post should be sent as a reply to every idiot who sends a frantic lock me up message to any female member of the Mansion.

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2026-09-08T16:21:53.676Z #4

I suppose I am a figment of people's imagination then.

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2026-09-08T20:45:04.056Z #5

Ok, I think we get the nub of it now. You are looking to meet a real-life woman in your area who wants to lock up your dick. Yet you’re on a website insulting a real-life woman because you don’t want online nonsense. Why are you here on a website then if you don’t want anything online? I think you are in the wrong place, and it would be better for you if you found yourself another fetish because male chastity normally requires a bit of respect, and you’re coming across as rude, arrogant, and selfish.

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2026-09-09T01:17:48.633Z #6

> The Reading Puppy said: > Im neither rude arrogant or selfish. I was recommended to come to this site and ive just joined yesterday but I can see its not going to be of any use. Im a male sub seeking a Mistress? Whats the difficulty? What dont you understand? > Click to expand... What I don't understand is what made you think this was some sort of pickup joint where you just needed to say you were wanting a Mistress for an FLR and you would be inundated with offers. You peppered the site with the same message and disrespected all the other members of the site. Have a look around. Do you see this behavior by anyone else? You also posted in a section that asked you to refrain from posting until you had settled in and got to know people. Those who do find a Mistress tend to be found by the Mistress as they take a liking to them through their site interaction over a period of time. Not constant advertising.

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2026-09-09T04:04:08.561Z #7

> The Reading Puppy said: > You cant get to know a person through a computer screen. Get to know me properly in real life is completely different > Click to expand... Well done for supplying an example of exactly what @Mistress Jules was writing about.

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