Introductions discussion

“Aloha” is a good title for this thread. Welcome! I am new here and fairly fresh to the lifestyle, but enjoying it so far. We live in Hawaii. Married for many years and have done everything from vanilla to male led light BdsM but have found the FLR or femdom approach is working best for us now. My wife loves being in control but needs teaching (she says she is boring and doesn’t know what to do) so I help her along. Bought first chastity device off Amazon. Utimi Silica Short which is a silica gel. Not wearing it 24/7 but wearing it at home after work and on weekends. Came with five different rings and managed to fit on one of the smaller rings which felt good until I took it off and my skin was irritated and abraded. This device can easily slip off because your balls can slip out of the ring when lying down or comes off when erect. We didn’t want to spend lots of money to start with but already thinking of another device, perhaps metal, but concerning about rusting problems from the cheaper products and not sure we want to spend hundreds for custom job.