Introductions discussion

My husband and I are both in our early fifties. While I’ve always been curious about alternative lifestyles, my wife wasn’t particularly keen on my interests, so for the most part I pursued them online and eventually ended up masturbating at least once a day. My wife and I rarely had sex together; he was often sleeping on the couch instead of in our bed. We hadn’t been intimate in three years, and our marriage felt stagnant with little conversation beyond the usual goodbye kiss when heading out for work.

I stumbled upon a website dedicated to male chastity devices and decided to order one just before Christmas without telling my wife beforehand. She noticed an email confirmation for another item I’d purchased and asked what it was. Assuming she saw the notification for the cage he had been wearing, I showed it to her. She gave me a look of disbelief and asked WTF that thing was for. I explained its purpose and why I felt compelled to wear it, suggesting she at least read an ebook on the topic. She agreed, though it took her some time to fully read through the book.

To my delight, she seemed open to the concept, so I handed over one of the keys for her to keep while holding onto the other as we worked out the right fit. He started taking care of most household chores—cooking and washing dishes (which he was already doing), plus laundry—and made sure fresh towels were ready when his wife showered. He even tidied up her bed before she left for work.

I should note that my husband has been wearing the cage almost constantly since it arrived, with only a few hours off here and there. We felt we needed a formal agreement, so after searching online I found one to use as a template and adjusted it to suit us. After his wife made her desired modifications, we both signed it, and he gave her that second key.

Our marriage is now better than at any point in nearly 32 years because my focus has shifted entirely to my wife’s needs rather than just mine. This change has truly been transformative for both of us. From now on, we will celebrate two anniversaries: the day we were married and the day we signed our contract.