Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Oh i so agree with you on the need for inescapeable bondage at the mere hint of being able to free myself the whole event is a letdown and i have never been a good actor so my face shows it outwardly immediately which used to always cause arguments. Its the same with the chastity devices for me though as well i need to know they are not coming off without the key and i also need to hear from my wife that she does not intend to remove it anytime soon, it is all in the mind in reality this kinky stuff.

I have the same desires for inescapability. It’s why I got my PA piercing. It’s why my wife keeps my keys in a safe that only she has access to. It’s why my next device will support a wire seal through the lock making any attempt to cheat obvious. I’ve never really tried to defeat devices. I did have one time that I was fooling around pulling on my jewelry and I got the ball off while wearing my Steelheart . I wasn’t really expecting it to come free. There’s no way I could have put it back in without pliers that I can’t get in there without taking the device off. So future devices will have an integrated PA pin rather than separate jewelry. My next device will be a Rigid Chastity Halfshell. Between the fixed PA pin and the support for wire seals I can’t imagine how I could cheat.

> sixofthebest said: > Subbies, chaste males (I repeat myself?!), and key holders, what are your thoughts? Symbolism sufficient? Inescapability not important? Preferred? Essential? > Click to expand... I wrote a rather long blog post on this once. In short, we all have scripts that we run in our heads. For some, token resistance is enough. Others need more of an actual physical restraint. This is why "honor system" denial is inherently different from denial with a device. It's the difference between "won't" and "can't." If the script in your head is more like "I'm not allowed, and I have to obey," then no device, or an insecure device works just fine. Alternately, if your mental script has more of "I can't, no matter how much I try," then you will want something more secure. And of course, presumably your partner also has a script, so you need to do something that fits with both scripts. In my case, it's easy: Mrs Edge wants me in something secure, because she wants to be 100% in charge, and that fits my script just fine. However, in reality, we're happy with a device that's 90% secure because I really do not want a PA piercing, and so far, Mrs Edge is accommodating. For example, my A272 (like my modified CB3000 before it) is both comfortable and secure, and under *most* circumstances, pulling out is a long, painful process. The exception is in the summer, when I'm working outside, then come in for a hot shower. Everything is so loose that it would be easy to pull out, but I don't because I can resist temptation for 10 minutes. Likewise, I have a spare key in the bathroom, so I can remove it for long bike rides. I don't wank before exercising because I don't want to feel sluggish, and I'm certainly not going to pull over to the side of the road. And when I get back, I'm too tired, so I hop into the shower and lock back up. Again, this is the 90% part where the script doesn't quite mesh with reality, but for the small amount, we manage. Lion has been playing with kink, BDSM, and chastity long enough so that he's relaxed when his mental script doesn't totally mesh with the reality of his device. And that's fine. Mrs Edge and I h ave been playing with chastity and denial for well over 15 years; I can handle temptation now better than I could back then. Aside: I did once spend 15 months in full orgasm denial with no cage; however, it wasn't as much fun as with the cage because I also like the idea of "can't" instead of "won't." If you want a longer discussion on this, I wrote out a much more detailed and reasoned essay back in 2009 when I still had some functioning brain cells.