How not to take charge from the bottom up?

Or, how to honor the desires of my key holders for her to decide what we do and don’t do. I’ve been the person who has kept our family and life running smoothly over the last twenty years, and by nature I am a planner and researcher. So even though we are both quite new to this journey of me being in chastity, I’m pretty far ahead of her when it comes to studying the subject. I have plenty of ideas and wishes, naturally enough. One thing she has mentioned is that she wants to come up with her own way of doing things. She wants those decisions to feel like they aren’t influenced by me. I love that! And I’m getting frustrated because my mind immediately goes into problem-solving mode whenever we hit a bump in the road. I’m trying hard not to tell her what I fantasize about and what I wish from this, but it’s difficult. Is there anyone with some good advice or tips on how to quiet that internal need to be on top of things all the time? It doesn’t get easier when you consider how turned on I get by this new path we’re on, which makes my mind race even faster.