Everything Centers on Her

I figured I’d share this experience: It’s really not about me; it is truly about HER! This realization hit me tonight while my wife and I were talking about the role chastity plays in our relationship, as well as the aspects of a female-led dynamic we’ve adopted. These insights came right after two major milestones. Last week, we had an incredible night of SIV (strap-on inside vagina) sex. With a rubber rabbit sleeve added to the dildo, she hit a record number of orgasms—five “BIG” ones and seven smaller ones. It was amazing for her, and she kept talking about it for days afterward. This meant a lot to me because it showed my wife no longer needs traditional PIV sex; this method gives her significantly more satisfaction. On Wednesday past, work stress and other issues were weighing on me heavily, causing me to be quite grumpy toward my wife. We went to bed in bad moods that lingered into the next day. I quickly realized my attitude was off. All through the day, I kept calling my wife to express how sorry I felt for being mean. It seemed resolved by evening, but we were both still in a mood where “playing” wasn’t on our minds. Surprisingly, she followed me into the bedroom and locked the door behind her. Without any instruction to undress (and keeping her own clothes on), she immediately began spanking me with her English riding crop. The hits were hard and not sexual at all. As she finished, she told me I must never act that way toward her again. With these two events still fresh in my mind—and physically present as well—we discussed what they mean. She explained that she gets extremely turned on by my frustration and the power she holds over me. Thanks to the success of our strap-on sex, she doesn’t need to unlock me for PIV intercourse anymore; she can have her cake and eat it too. She then mentioned feeling guilty about something before. I assumed this meant guilt over my lack of an orgasm, but she quickly corrected me. Her guilt stemmed from feeling like she was cheating on herself by unlocking me. It had nothing to do with me personally; it was all about HER! The second milestone involved incorporating non-sexual punishment. As we discussed this, she made sure I understood that she is in charge and won’t tolerate such behavior again. My wife’s message was clear: this isn’t just some sexual game or fetish of mine. It is a complete reflection of the reality of our female-led relationship. Once more, it is all about HER! I am thrilled by these steps because I always worried that her play was merely to fulfill one of my fantasies while she got little enjoyment from it. Tonight clearly dispelled that myth.