Difficulties with wearing a device? discussion

I realize this is somewhat the main issue, but the discomfort feels excessive. The trouble spot lies beneath the testicles, right where the base ring touches the skin. It starts to burn and turns quite red. This has forced me to stop play a few times now. While there’s plenty of guidance out there on this topic, I haven’t seen any that really address my specific situation perfectly.

I’m using a metal cage that fits snugly but isn’t too tight when soft—about 4cm in length with a 45mm circular ring. Previously, the 40mm option felt overly constricting. The current 45mm is slightly loose; I can slide a finger underneath it.

Many suggest taking a hot shower or simply calming down to help. While this does ease the soreness, that’s not always practical during active teasing! What else can be done?