I posted here and on fetlife recently that I’ll hold the keys for anyone struggling to find a keyholder, provided they do NOT enjoy it and are using it to help with porn or masturbation addiction, or improving their life in some way. To my surprise, I received plenty of replies and have sent out several locks. Does anyone else truly not enjoy chastity?
> L-u-c-y said: > I posted here and on fetlife recently that I’ll hold the keys for anyone struggling to find a keyholder, provided they do NOT enjoy it and are using it to help with porn or masturbation addiction, or improving their life in some way. > To my surprise, I received plenty of replies and have sent out several locks. > Does anyone else truly not enjoy chastity? > Click to expand... I'm feeling confused about what actually brings me enjoyment, contentment, gratification, etc. We haven't played with devices much per se (maybe we should try more?), but my outlets have been whittled down more and more, with options being taken off the table one by one. I've also lost a bunch of weight and rarely look at anything graphic, especially after changes on Tumblr. We’ve been doing this over 20 years, but there have been stark changes in the last year and a half. Do I enjoy it? Am I better me? It feels like we are far past those initial hormonal jumps; it’s much more of a marathon than a sprint. Who "enjoys" marathons? I'm feeling confused.
It started as a fetish that I introduced to my wife, and it was a mistake. She locks me 24/7 and teases me relentlessly... the fantasy became reality and it’s insane... she is the boss. I’m 6’2" at 240 lbs, hit the gym regularly and am in shape. Yet this 120lb lady demands I wear the cage, and there’s nothing I can do to stop it... she won that argument months ago. I just go along with it to avoid a fight; it isn’t worth making her mad when she loves me so much if I listen.
> Fuhr84 said: > It started as a fetish that I introduced to my wife, and it was a mistake. > She locks me 24/7 and teases me relentlessly... the fantasy became reality and it’s insane... she is the boss. > I’m 6’2" at 240 lbs, hit the gym regularly and am in shape. Yet this 120lb lady demands I wear the cage, and there’s nothing I can do to stop it... she won that argument months ago. I just go along with it to avoid a fight; it isn’t worth making her mad when she loves me so much if I listen. > Click to expand... lol. No sympathy.
> Fuhr84 said: > It started as a fetish that I introduced to my wife, and it was a mistake. > She locks me 24/7 and teases me relentlessly... the fantasy became reality and it’s insane... she is the boss. > I’m 6’2" at 240 lbs, hit the gym regularly and am in shape. Yet this 120lb lady demands I wear the cage, and there’s nothing I can do to stop it... she won that argument months ago. I just go along with it to avoid a fight; it isn’t worth making her mad when she loves me so much if I listen. > Click to expand... I was about the same size and shape. She *made* me lose 40 lbs in about a year. She's been telling everyone that she *made* me join Weight Watchers and take up a sport. On one hand, I'm glad for the motivation. On the other hand, I'm not sure I "love" the blows to my ego.
absolutely love it. I am more productive at work and more focused on important things like providing for my family and pleasing my wife. hell, i appreciate her more now than ever. it wasn't just chastity that brought about all this, however it was a major contributor. I always resented other men who had picture-perfect girlfriends or wives; comparing one's relationship to others sets an impossible standard to reach. It took a while but i feel like a fool for not seeing what was right in front of my eyes all along. I have a damn near perfect life with the most beautiful woman in the world and a fantastic family and job. From the sex life perspective, We are slowly chugging along implementing other FLR aspects and fetishes she is interested in exploring with me. Where this will all end up is anyone's best guess. But im excited to wake up every day to learn new ways to make her happy and provide better for my family. Id be lying if i didnt say i was ecstatic about implementing kinks I had only dreamed of sharing with my wife for two decades. as far as kinks go. chastity IMO is one of the first that should be implemented. it alleviates a lot of pressure and worry from women regarding sex. It also puts the ball in their court to decide which kinks to pursue after chastity is enforced. My wife is more open-minded now that she has the power and holds the reigns over where our sex life (as well as home life) is headed.
> L-u-c-y said: > I posted here and on fetlife recently that I’ll hold the keys for anyone struggling to find a keyholder, provided they do NOT enjoy it and are using it to help with porn or masturbation addiction, or improving their life in some way. > To my surprise, I received plenty of replies and have sent out several locks. > Does anyone else truly not enjoy chastity? > Click to expand... I am preparing the way for my first device, the Rigid Modular 5; I am just getting my piercing to settle down to the right size. I am actually a little scared of never being able to touch myself again and wonder how I will cope if it turns out to be comfortable without day-to-day issues. I feel my wife is more liable to leave me secure in the device, and the thought of very few orgasms doesn’t seem fun!
I have never tried chastity so I guess my answer would be that I do not enjoy the idea of it as a fetish. I do find the dynamic it creates enjoyable and find the stories of relationships using it fascinating. However, I still don't understand how being in chastity makes one more focused and productive though. Wouldn't many be even more hyper-focused on sex/porn if they are in a constant state of chastity?
> Fuhr84 said: > It started as a fetish that I introduced to my wife, and it was a mistake. > She locks me 24/7 and teases me relentlessly... the fantasy became reality and it’s insane... she is the boss. > I’m 6’2" at 240 lbs, hit the gym regularly and am in shape. Yet this 120lb lady demands I wear the cage, and there’s nothing I can do to stop it... she won that argument months ago. I just go along with it to avoid a fight; it isn’t worth making her mad when she loves me so much if I listen. > Click to expand... Sounds like a success story to put in the testimonials for chastity.
> winstonmacgregor said: > I still don't understand how being in chastity makes one more focused and productive though. Wouldn't many be even more hyper-focused on sex/porn if they are in a constant state of chastity? > Click to expand... So the thing is you're not entirely wrong. Sexual stuff is on the mind and in focus way more. But the interesting part is that orgasm denial also just seems to give you more focus and energy in general. Keeping myself self locked for the past month and a half has helped me break out of my apathy I've had for years, allowing me to be more open and expressive. It certainly hasn't hurt my productivity either as I managed quite a bit more into a recent comic project than usual, and have made many videos for my pornhub. But if you want to use it to stop porn/masturbation it's not gonna work. If you're completely denied any sexual outlet the feelings you get are negative. And if you have no one to supply that for you, you'd probably turn to porn (like I have), and chastity lets you spend *so much more time* looking at it.
> Cowboob said: > So the thing is you're not entirely wrong. Sexual stuff is on the mind and in focus way more. But the interesting part is that orgasm denial also just seems to give you more focus and energy in general. Keeping myself self locked for the past month and a half has helped me break out of my apathy I've had for years, allowing me to be more open and expressive. It certainly hasn't hurt my productivity either as I managed quite a bit more into a recent comic project than usual, and have made many videos for my pornhub. > But if you want to use it to stop porn/masturbation it's not gonna work. If you're completely denied any sexual outlet the feelings you get are negative. And if you have no one to supply that for you, you'd probably turn to porn (like I have), and chastity lets you spend *so much more time* looking at it. > Click to expand... Wouldn't watching porn make things many times worse if you are locked? What do you get out of it seeing as that you are locked and all?
> winstonmacgregor said: > Wouldn't watching porn make things many times worse if you are locked? What do you get out of it seeing as that you are locked and all? > Click to expand... The satisfaction isn't all in the end. It helps me since I find the frustration itself hot, but even without that just the act of experiencing arousal is a positive experience. Without a designated lose interest time (orgasm) it's hard to find a place to stop so instead of being a ~5 minute time waster it could easily last over an hour. It's when you don't get anything that you get really frustrated and experience negativity, which I felt with my ex since under her rules I wasn't allowed anything and she had little if any interest in engaging with me sexually.