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Hey everyone,
I’ve had a soft spot for BDSM since I was about 14, though I kept it pretty private back then. My last relationship lasted over three years and gave me the chance to start sharing my desire to be more submissive while letting my girlfriend take charge.
It turned out she really enjoyed it. We started with edging and denial, eventually moving on to purchasing cages for short locking periods that gradually got longer.
Sadly, that relationship ended—not because of our sexual dynamic (which was actually at its peak), but other factors played a part. So now I find myself at a crossroads.
It was such an incredible time sexually for me. The orgasms were far more intense when they happened, and I loved satisfying my girlfriend even more than before (I have to admit, I already liked it). Now the question is: what’s next?
This whole thing developed quite organically; it took me two years to build enough trust with her to reveal this side of myself. I’m unsure whether to date again and test the waters once more, or dive straight into looking for a local domme, keyholder, switch, or play partner. How do you even go about that? Fetlife munches? Personal ads? Or just hitting up clubs and other events in nearby cities within our community?
I’m mostly just fishing for ideas and opinions. I’m someone in their 30s who is fairly new to actually participating, rather than just watching from the sidelines.
Even writing this post feels like a step forward after having lurked on CM, Reddit, r/femdom, and other forums for quite some time without much interaction.
That’s my story - Hello!