Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Wow! I can relate to your predicament somewhat. I wish I had profound wisdom to share, but perhaps not. I feel what you are going through and hope things work out for the best. Others here might have more practical advice. Good luck.

You two have already talked about it. Perhaps a compromise is needed. The very idea arouses you. She wants to avoid having sex without connection (pic sex). My wife feels the same way. Think of it as part of your pillow talk fantasy. She might agree to lock you up during foreplay, provided you give her the intimacy she desires inside her. It requires effort from both sides, but marriage is largely about compromise and respecting each other’s needs. Consider wearing it to bed when the moment feels right. Focus on your desire for her to remove your CB so they can make love. I think she will appreciate seeing your condition clearly. Your wife may start linking her own desires with yours. If she wears a bra regularly, explain that you feel about your cage as she does about her bra. But surely she takes off the bra when intimacy happens! However, if staying celibate is crucial for you, it might be wise to leave marriage and wed Chastity instead. The key point is that the topic is actively under discussion!!! This benefits both of you! A final piece of advice: It is ironic that we spouses try not to live solely in our own heads, yet so much of sex and life occurs primarily within our minds.