Hi all! We’re just starting out here. I put my boyfriend in a lock for nearly seven days now. I have a rough grasp of the basics, but being ‘dominant’ isn’t really my natural role and most punishments (pain) don’t appeal to me much. I’m looking for advice or suggestions from Keyholders with more experience.
> Lexxisaur said: > Hi all! > > We're just starting out here. I put my boyfriend in a lock for nearly seven days now. I have a rough grasp of the basics, but being 'dominant' isn't really my natural role and most punishments (pain) don't appeal to me much. I'm looking for advice or suggestions from Keyholders with more experience. > > Click to expand... Welcome over here! Well, I am a sub serving Goddess P. 1. Right now you hold the reins. Don't forget that fact. 2. He needs to abide by your rules. 3. Establish some firm boundaries between you two. 4. You must decide how you wish to be treated and train him accordingly. Here are a few painless punishment options: 1. Extending his time in the cage. 2. Forcing him to stand in a corner for a while. 3. Once he has an orgasm, make him clean up wherever it happened. 4. Cleaning different areas of the house naked and caged. If you have cuffs, put those on too. These are just some ideas for you; I'm sure more will follow. Welcome again!