Personal ads - Looking for a keyholder or sub? discussion

> doux-amere said: > Hi everyone. I've been with a male sub for about three years now. He showed me orgasm denial and I really liked it. Then I took things further into chastity as well. There are two reasons he can't wear the device: first, his wife is unaware of his kinkiness; second, she doesn't realize that he has a domme. This misses out on something big for me. Still, I like him so much what else can I do? Over these years, I've been watching this forum from the sidelines, picking up knowledge and appreciating how thoughtful people are here. > > Right now though, I have an issue. Like most adults, I hold a steady full-time job with benefits. Finding time to meet other play partners or date someone new is tough for me. Even though there's a spare room in my house that could become a playspace, I don't want to bother my husband (who is mostly vanilla but open-minded). And then there are the dogs. It wouldn’t be great having guests over for kinky fun only to hear barking or see him washing dishes. > > So here’s an idea—could I charge fees for playing? Honestly, it's what I enjoy most and would gladly spend time and cash on my own space if I had one, but work/family/my current sub/life have me stretched thin. If I could at least afford a studio rental by charging enough to cover that cost, I’d be pleased. Of course, making extra money to buy those pricey toys I’ve been eyeing in videos sounds nice too. Ideally, earning well enough would let me cut back my regular job to part-time without losing benefits. But becoming a full-time prodomme isn't on my radar. The usual image of the professional domme—black hair, fetish gear, stern mistress persona—isn't really what I am or need. > > Another concern is wanting actual playtime. While domination services typically avoid sexual contact, does that mean no touching? If a nice cock appears before me, I know I'll want to touch it myself. My goal isn't just watching them edge and deny orgasms; I prefer doing the ruining too. At the same time, I don't seek out the heavy expectations tied to traditional sex work financially speaking so I get picky about who I play with. Long-term connections allow me to truly shape their development as submissives. > > What do you think? Does this plan seem sensible and achievable? Any tips for starting? > Thanks! You caught my attention, but then the warning light flashed when you mentioned touching cocks! Having previously guided a submissive who wasn't my husband myself, I might have some insight to share. My advice is: touch it with a cane or whip if you must, but using your hands directly may not be ideal.