Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I truly believed I had finished with chastity. After nearly five years, my interest waned because my wife wasn’t always in the mood for denying me. The issue was that our drives often didn’t match; when I wanted sex, she didn’t, and vice versa. We ended up going weeks without intimacy simply couldn’t seem to get on the same page.

Then came the discovery: retrograde ejaculation. The valve responsible for keeping semen from entering my bladder has stopped closing properly, so most of it goes backward into the bladder before being expelled during urination. It’s harmless, and since we are older and not planning more children, it isn’t a major concern. Actually, my wife prefers it because it is cleaner. My orgasms aren’t quite as powerful, though. I feel them at first but miss those subsequent pulses afterward, so they don’t last as long as before. I am unsure whether prolonged chastity denial caused this or if diabetes is the culprit, although my levels have been well under the diabetic threshold in recent tests. One thing I do know: I was straining heavily to hold back ejaculation when it started.

Interestingly, just a few hours after being locked up again, I felt that horniness returning and renewed interest in sex. After so many years of freedom, I found myself missing the lock. We are making a significant shift this time around. No more waiting months between orgasms. This setup is designed to keep me aroused until my wife desires intimacy; she won’t deny me during our sexual encounters, only in between. There isn’t much of that dominant/submissive dynamic here since I chose this voluntarily rather than being forced.

The site looks promising. I wonder how the community will evolve. Last time women were running things, many men left—including myself. It felt like visiting a Domme’s household when all I wanted was to relax with other locked-up guys for a beer. However, since so many men are seeking online keyholders or dommes, it should attract those without them, much like Fetlife does. The sex forums seem filled with men who haven’t found the right woman to dominate them yet. Many realize that dommes aren’t born; they’re made. It isn’t like in porn where women are eager to take charge of a man. In reality, most don’t want that role, so men turn to the internet for their sexual lives.

If I had this technology when I was younger, perhaps I would have done the same. Instead, I spent three nights a week going out to meet women and finding those few who were sexually adventurous enough to play BDSM games with me. I found them and married one who shared her life with her girlfriend—a naturally dominant woman. She lives elsewhere after our last move, but we stay close; she is still considered family. If her husband passes away, she will join us. We are a polyamorous triad, much as we have been throughout most of our marriage and adult lives.

So I’ll see how it goes and help out where needed. This change could be wonderful.