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I’ve just crossed the four-year mark of embracing my identity as a dominant woman and discovering the pleasures that come with male chastity.

I became part of this community in late October 2013. I wasn’t entirely sure what I was doing at first, but I was eager to learn quickly. With guidance from several members—thanks especially to @MaidCharlotte for a solid BDSM basics guide and the never-ending stream of replies from @maid_carrie—I found my place.

The insights I gathered here led me to Fetlife, which opened doors to both my local group and the broader scene nearby. Imagine how thrilled I was when I discovered a club that took place in an actual professional dungeon. Even better, this venue focused entirely on non-sexual activities. It proved to be an ideal spot for a new Mistress whose preferred style of play revolves around chastity.

Back then, I acted as the keyholder for several men who were locked up through online and long-distance arrangements. Some of those fellows we managed to meet in person at the club or during other gatherings.

I even hosted a giveaway on CM where you could win a padlock without any keys included. One member here predicted he would be the winner since it was meant to be. I chuckled but used a random number generator just to ensure his luck didn’t hold out against him—and surprise, he won! He is now my slave/partner/fiancée @lockit.

We live hundreds of miles apart, yet that distance hardly seems relevant. Who would have guessed you’d find your life partner on a site like CM? I certainly wouldn’t have, but I am incredibly happy we found one another.

Life has shifted in numerous ways since my first day joining. I turned professional as a Dominatrix and authored some books about male chastity, offering a perspective that is somewhat less extreme than others might portray it. I invested in the very pro dungeon hosting the club I frequent, and sold off half of our shared property a couple of years later.

Two of my longest-acting submissives have moved on to get married themselves; it’s wonderful seeing them so content with their lives. It’s even better knowing that their partners have been introduced to male chastity, and my boys understand how to maintain their safety and comfort while locked up.

I wonder what the upcoming four years will hold? If they mirror the past ones, it is guaranteed to be enjoyable.