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My wife and I have been experimenting with short-term chastity for roughly a year now.

I’ve practiced BDSM since I was young. I never shared my desires with my wife until about eighteen months ago, when I decided to let her in on some of them. Over time, I gradually revealed more about what I enjoy. I used to consider myself a switch, but these days I lean much more toward being submissive. While she wasn’t particularly keen on being tied up or whipped—which is something I loved—about twelve months ago I suggested trying chastity after reading that it could be fun and rewarding for her as well, allowing her control over my orgasms. At first, she was a bit hesitant.

In the early days, we only did it for short periods, usually leading to sex. However, as our practice grew, so did my desire to stay locked up longer.

My main complaint was that the CB6000 device I wore became quite painful after prolonged use. We tried a smaller steel model which seemed better initially but eventually also caused pain, forcing us to remove it. The problems included pinching and an intense burning sensation under my balls.

After seeking advice and doing more research on bear devices, we opted for the Holy Trainer V2. I have to admit, as soon as it arrived, I put it straight on; it fit like a glove and was completely painless.

We began extending our lock-up periods, though nighttime locks were initially problematic, requiring me to take the device off several times during sleep.

Eventually, we had a breakthrough: I managed to stay locked all night, waking up only once.

My wife liked the concept of my being caged but didn’t pay much attention to it. I started wondering if chastity was right for us because she would lock me in but rarely took the key, teased me, or denied me properly. I made sure to highlight the benefits for her as well. Slowly but surely, her interest has grown.

At that stage, we hadn’t fully discussed our preferences, what we were willing to do (and not do), and how far we wanted to take it. Like anything, it was a process of trial and error.

Previously, the longest I had worn the device was over a weekend.

Recently, with the arrival of our newborn baby, most BDSM activities paused, but chastity continued. My wife’s interest has been building for some time now. Until then, my locks were typically just weekends long.

Last Wednesday, while on leave from work, I was surprised when my wife told me to put my cage on first thing Thursday morning. I complied and put it on early Friday morning, presenting the key to her so she could inspect that it was secure.

I’m not due back at work until next Tuesday. Surprisingly, my wife announced I would be locked for seven days straight. I suggested we keep me caged until I return to work, which would extend it to twelve days total.

Before this happened, I had discussed with my wife the idea of her using a strap-on while I’m in chastity—a practice she doesn’t mind trying—and then perhaps having her use that same device on me, though she hasn’t been very keen. She did mention that I can order some butt plugs we already own.

Today marks the third day and night I’ve been locked up, with only one break yesterday to wash before going right back into my device. This time around, she has kept both keys hidden.

We had a major breakthrough today after having a long chat about everything. She asked me to create three lists: Soft, Medium, and Hard. Soft = Things I am happy to do; Medium = Things I’m unsure about; Hard = A definite no-go. This surprised me for two reasons: first, it was something I expected but hadn’t quite gotten around to; secondly, I ended up writing down almost everything. The other surprise today is that she introduced a new edging game we haven’t tried before. No matter what activity I’m doing, she will call out a time between three and six minutes. She gives me that window to go into the bedroom with my wand for an edge. The rules are simple: I must reach the point of no return in the cage but stop. If I cum, there is a severe punishment. Another rule is returning to her within the allotted time; failing to do so also results in punishment. Not reaching that edging point counts as another failure. The news that has me most nervous (but excited) is my wife saying today that she’s really enjoying this phase and might decide to make it full-time. I feel blown away, yet nervous and excited all at the same time. After all, this is exactly what I was hoping for.