Introductions discussion

This is my first entry. I am happily married and in the late stages of my forties. It’s a common tale, I suppose: our hectic schedules left us with little time for each other, and when spare moments did arise, I often preferred to masturbate rather than spend that time with her. I’d been reading up on male chastity and its underlying science. The usual pattern—masturbation leading to orgasm and then a reduced desire to connect with my wife—really resonated with me. So, I opened up to her about it, explained what I wanted to do differently, and asked for her support. After getting past that initial surprise and reading the same excellent article I had found, she agreed to give it a try.

I am now 14 days into my chastity journey; my first spell lasted 17 days before my wife took pity on me and let me cum. However, we’ve hit some snags:

1. I use a CB6000s, and after lots of trial and error during the day, I have a setup that fits well. But nights are trickier. Every time I try sleeping in it, I wake up with significant pain where the base ring digs into me. Right now, we’re relying more on trust than on a lock from which I can’t escape. It’s working okay, but I’m worried about how I’ll cope once I reach several weeks of chastity (our target goal is to establish a pattern of 3 months at a time). My question: does anyone use different settings or adjustments for locking up the CB during nighttime?

2. We aren’t particularly adventurous in our sex life, and honestly, I’m surprised my wife agreed to this experiment, but I deeply respect her willingness to try. She’s still trying to wrap her head around how I can find satisfaction through her pleasure rather than solely on myself. I think she also feels a bit guilty about controlling me. Hopefully, that stubborn streak will develop over time. My second question: could anyone suggest some good keyholders who post regularly here so my wife has someone to follow?